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<blockquote data-quote="Mattsmom277" data-source="post: 367949" data-attributes="member: 4264"><p>I wish I could just change my number (it is already unlisted). But the thing is, my mother in law is wonderful. A sweet woman who has the hugest heart of anyone I've ever met. But she's also one of those mothers who, despite knowing and being open about how she is so disappointed in her daughter, is still a mom and sees it as her place to always want to smooth things over. It could get frustrating but I don't let it because it is a generational thing with her, how she was raised, and she truly doesn't try to play peace maker simply to force us against our will. She just wants peace and her family getting along. So, ultimately she'd pass along our new number anyhow. How it stands now, my S/O has zero intention of calling his sister. And we have call display so if her number comes up, it won't be answered. Her living 5 hours away will make the avoiding her thing pretty easy.</p><p></p><p>To add more drama to this ridiculous situation, I got a facebook message from the crack head lady today. I can't even block her because she's not on my friends list, and must be in order to block her. If I simply change my privacy settings to no messages from those not on my friends list, then that eliminates the ability for others to message me that might not yet be on my list. My little sister (she's 12) sometimes messages me from friends houses and their accounts, and she's in a unhealthy home situation and facebook is her emergency contact me system. So I'm stuck having gotten this message from this nitwit. Anyhow, gosh only knows what sister in law has been telling this trash heap. But the message said that I don't deserve my S/O, that I apparently treat him horribly and speak to him horribly, that he is only staying with me because apparently I'd commit suicide if he tried to leave me, and that I was so pathetic I should do the world a favor and just get it over with (suicide). </p><p></p><p>Now, one would think that message would get my fires a-burning. But I read it out loud to my S/O and we both cracked up laughing. Yes, we have weird senses of humor sometimes. But we were pretty amused. I was chopping tomatoes for tacos at dinner time and the jokes were flying about how I shouldn't be allowed to have a knife, how he'd have to have my brother come over to help sleep in shifts for my suicide watch, and on and on. It was really humorous. Why? Not quite sure. But something is just so pathetic at someone I haven't known in 20 years (so a stranger at this stage) getting this invested and ridiculous in trying to get my goat. I have no clue why. Best we can imagine is she thinks in her never-grown-up mind that she's doing something helpful to "get back at me" for speaking out to my sister in law and for speaking the truth. But the way things were worded, it also sounds like my sister in law was actually telling this woman this stuff, as if it was truth, to make me look bad. Little does she know that it made us laugh. The other side of it was also that my S/O also told me tonight that if she hadn't already nailed the finally nails in the coffin of their relationship by now, this certainly did it. He's very much a protective alpha type, and doesn't take well to people trying to mess with me. We could care less what this drugged out lady thinks/believes. But for his own sister to be so hateful and ignorant has pushed him over an edge that he's been on the brink of with his sister for a very long time. </p><p></p><p>Oddly, his mother called (his step dad is in rough shape in the hospital) and she spoke for quite a while with me. I know better than to speak to a mom about her troubled/addicted daughter, but she brought her up. I summarized without alot of detail what has been going on at this stage and how it made me feel. My mother in law told me she loves her daughter so much but no longer knows her and can't believe she's changed to this degree, but that she's been watching the train wreck for a while and no longer feels she can do anything to change or help her daughter (I agree, my sister in law is going to have alot of work ahead of her to fix her life mess when shes finally ready). It felt nice to hear my mother in law not bash her daughter, but not defend her hateful actions. At the minimum I hoped she would understand that S/O and I have to eliminate contact with sister in law for good reasons. And she more than understands. </p><p></p><p>I just hope that the drama ends here. I might have laughed at the stupidity of that facebook message, it was pretty funny if you were a fly on the wall of our house. S/O and I would make the most loving couples gag. We are drippy "cute" and "sappy". We use goofy syrupy sweet voices, act like we're kids around each other, hate being apart, pout if we have to do things without each other, have a book full of pet names for each other. We got a kick out of sister in law's claim to her "friend" that I treat him badly and speak to him horribly. But I have to wonder if, since this got zero reaction from me and S/O, if something new will crop up. And I am still baffled as to why his sister doesn't just get on with living her life. Why bother caring and all the effort into trying to "get back at us" for something that we never did in the first please, without of course counting telling her we were done with her games and CYA, have a nice life etc. </p><p></p><p>I can just imagine running into this druggie lady when I'm visiting at my brothers house. He has his kids most of the summer so I'll be helping him by babysitting. Can't imagine not seeing the wingnut when outdoors with the kids.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mattsmom277, post: 367949, member: 4264"] I wish I could just change my number (it is already unlisted). But the thing is, my mother in law is wonderful. A sweet woman who has the hugest heart of anyone I've ever met. But she's also one of those mothers who, despite knowing and being open about how she is so disappointed in her daughter, is still a mom and sees it as her place to always want to smooth things over. It could get frustrating but I don't let it because it is a generational thing with her, how she was raised, and she truly doesn't try to play peace maker simply to force us against our will. She just wants peace and her family getting along. So, ultimately she'd pass along our new number anyhow. How it stands now, my S/O has zero intention of calling his sister. And we have call display so if her number comes up, it won't be answered. Her living 5 hours away will make the avoiding her thing pretty easy. To add more drama to this ridiculous situation, I got a facebook message from the crack head lady today. I can't even block her because she's not on my friends list, and must be in order to block her. If I simply change my privacy settings to no messages from those not on my friends list, then that eliminates the ability for others to message me that might not yet be on my list. My little sister (she's 12) sometimes messages me from friends houses and their accounts, and she's in a unhealthy home situation and facebook is her emergency contact me system. So I'm stuck having gotten this message from this nitwit. Anyhow, gosh only knows what sister in law has been telling this trash heap. But the message said that I don't deserve my S/O, that I apparently treat him horribly and speak to him horribly, that he is only staying with me because apparently I'd commit suicide if he tried to leave me, and that I was so pathetic I should do the world a favor and just get it over with (suicide). Now, one would think that message would get my fires a-burning. But I read it out loud to my S/O and we both cracked up laughing. Yes, we have weird senses of humor sometimes. But we were pretty amused. I was chopping tomatoes for tacos at dinner time and the jokes were flying about how I shouldn't be allowed to have a knife, how he'd have to have my brother come over to help sleep in shifts for my suicide watch, and on and on. It was really humorous. Why? Not quite sure. But something is just so pathetic at someone I haven't known in 20 years (so a stranger at this stage) getting this invested and ridiculous in trying to get my goat. I have no clue why. Best we can imagine is she thinks in her never-grown-up mind that she's doing something helpful to "get back at me" for speaking out to my sister in law and for speaking the truth. But the way things were worded, it also sounds like my sister in law was actually telling this woman this stuff, as if it was truth, to make me look bad. Little does she know that it made us laugh. The other side of it was also that my S/O also told me tonight that if she hadn't already nailed the finally nails in the coffin of their relationship by now, this certainly did it. He's very much a protective alpha type, and doesn't take well to people trying to mess with me. We could care less what this drugged out lady thinks/believes. But for his own sister to be so hateful and ignorant has pushed him over an edge that he's been on the brink of with his sister for a very long time. Oddly, his mother called (his step dad is in rough shape in the hospital) and she spoke for quite a while with me. I know better than to speak to a mom about her troubled/addicted daughter, but she brought her up. I summarized without alot of detail what has been going on at this stage and how it made me feel. My mother in law told me she loves her daughter so much but no longer knows her and can't believe she's changed to this degree, but that she's been watching the train wreck for a while and no longer feels she can do anything to change or help her daughter (I agree, my sister in law is going to have alot of work ahead of her to fix her life mess when shes finally ready). It felt nice to hear my mother in law not bash her daughter, but not defend her hateful actions. At the minimum I hoped she would understand that S/O and I have to eliminate contact with sister in law for good reasons. And she more than understands. I just hope that the drama ends here. I might have laughed at the stupidity of that facebook message, it was pretty funny if you were a fly on the wall of our house. S/O and I would make the most loving couples gag. We are drippy "cute" and "sappy". We use goofy syrupy sweet voices, act like we're kids around each other, hate being apart, pout if we have to do things without each other, have a book full of pet names for each other. We got a kick out of sister in law's claim to her "friend" that I treat him badly and speak to him horribly. But I have to wonder if, since this got zero reaction from me and S/O, if something new will crop up. And I am still baffled as to why his sister doesn't just get on with living her life. Why bother caring and all the effort into trying to "get back at us" for something that we never did in the first please, without of course counting telling her we were done with her games and CYA, have a nice life etc. I can just imagine running into this druggie lady when I'm visiting at my brothers house. He has his kids most of the summer so I'll be helping him by babysitting. Can't imagine not seeing the wingnut when outdoors with the kids. [/QUOTE]
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