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<blockquote data-quote="Shari" data-source="post: 357022" data-attributes="member: 1848"><p>We got home last night, and Wee was watching a Lego movie on his little dvd player. He took it in the house with him and plopped into the recliner.</p><p>***</p><p>Granted, it was another sound in the house, and husband was watching tv, but we'd been gone for 30+ hours and I had listened to one movie or another for the past 5 hours. Not a word spoken to Wee other than "go to your room or shut it off".</p><p>***</p><p>Really? You can't even say "Hi"? So after a very long trip, Wee contentedly resigned to his room.</p><p>***</p><p>I really have my doubts there's much I can do to alter things. He's 45. I have learned where his attitudes come from, so I presume they've been there since birth. And I have reinforced a lot of it myself by being determined and independent by nature.</p><p>***</p><p>And I am not sure if we share common goals. I'd like to have a nice place to live. I don't think he cares. Again, look at his roots...I don't have to have the best or the nicest, but I try to take care of what I do have, and I work my butt off to keep what I have. I'd like to work towards the things I don't have. I think he is just planning to inherit his folks' place when they die (yeah, wanna talk about a thought that stresses me out????)</p><p>***</p><p>I bought easy child 2/difficult child a horse. His response? He went and bought a mule (which I'm now wondering...his mule died 5 years ago...he didn't ride it when it was alive...when my dog died and I got a new dog, he went and got the heeler dog...so, is he really going to use this mule? And its a gaited mule. He has poked fun at me for years for riding gaited horses...he's ridden one ONE TIME, but he had to have a gaited mule...) Or is it a knee-jerk entitlement issue that she got one, so he does, too? (literally, he was on the computer looking for a mule within moments of me saying I'd found a horse for his daughter). Anyway, he had to take a small loan thru work to get it. I had to sign. I went to do that at lunch today. He handed me the check and told me to cash it all and bring it to him. I will be picking up the mule on Thursday. I do not want to pack around that much in cash til Thursday. He's afraid it will be spent if I leave it in the bank!!!! I bit my tongue, but on the way back to work, I decided I'm not letting that one slide. He is contributing to the household for the first time; I made him start giving me money to offset the car I bought that he's driving. He doesn't like it. I don't care, and if he wants to have a fit about it, I guess he's welcome to go spend some time at "his" house or contribute towards his expenses like easy child 1 does.</p><p>***</p><p>(couple weeks back, I filled my truck to go on a camping trip. 35 gallons of diesel at $2.98 a gallon. I planned to drive so I would have enough fuel for the camping trip and the trail ride the following weekend. Things happened and he had to drive. He burnt the whole tank of fuel to go 250 miles (its the way he drives - it makes that much difference in a diesel - easy child 1 and I can pull 27mpg out of that truck - husband, 15 if he knows I'm watching). When his buddy, that went to look at the mule with him, asked how the fuel mileage was in the truck, husband laughed and said he doesn't care about fuel economy. He wants to get where he's going and he only worries when its empty. Guess I'm taking that as another "screw you" message. Whether he intended it that way or not. If I live like that, I won't have a camper. Or a horse. Or a truck! I have to watch the pennies to have the things I've got.)</p><p>***</p><p>There's just so many little things...once I get started thinking, I can just come up with one after another after another...and its just royally ticks me off.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Shari, post: 357022, member: 1848"] We got home last night, and Wee was watching a Lego movie on his little dvd player. He took it in the house with him and plopped into the recliner. *** Granted, it was another sound in the house, and husband was watching tv, but we'd been gone for 30+ hours and I had listened to one movie or another for the past 5 hours. Not a word spoken to Wee other than "go to your room or shut it off". *** Really? You can't even say "Hi"? So after a very long trip, Wee contentedly resigned to his room. *** I really have my doubts there's much I can do to alter things. He's 45. I have learned where his attitudes come from, so I presume they've been there since birth. And I have reinforced a lot of it myself by being determined and independent by nature. *** And I am not sure if we share common goals. I'd like to have a nice place to live. I don't think he cares. Again, look at his roots...I don't have to have the best or the nicest, but I try to take care of what I do have, and I work my butt off to keep what I have. I'd like to work towards the things I don't have. I think he is just planning to inherit his folks' place when they die (yeah, wanna talk about a thought that stresses me out????) *** I bought easy child 2/difficult child a horse. His response? He went and bought a mule (which I'm now wondering...his mule died 5 years ago...he didn't ride it when it was alive...when my dog died and I got a new dog, he went and got the heeler dog...so, is he really going to use this mule? And its a gaited mule. He has poked fun at me for years for riding gaited horses...he's ridden one ONE TIME, but he had to have a gaited mule...) Or is it a knee-jerk entitlement issue that she got one, so he does, too? (literally, he was on the computer looking for a mule within moments of me saying I'd found a horse for his daughter). Anyway, he had to take a small loan thru work to get it. I had to sign. I went to do that at lunch today. He handed me the check and told me to cash it all and bring it to him. I will be picking up the mule on Thursday. I do not want to pack around that much in cash til Thursday. He's afraid it will be spent if I leave it in the bank!!!! I bit my tongue, but on the way back to work, I decided I'm not letting that one slide. He is contributing to the household for the first time; I made him start giving me money to offset the car I bought that he's driving. He doesn't like it. I don't care, and if he wants to have a fit about it, I guess he's welcome to go spend some time at "his" house or contribute towards his expenses like easy child 1 does. *** (couple weeks back, I filled my truck to go on a camping trip. 35 gallons of diesel at $2.98 a gallon. I planned to drive so I would have enough fuel for the camping trip and the trail ride the following weekend. Things happened and he had to drive. He burnt the whole tank of fuel to go 250 miles (its the way he drives - it makes that much difference in a diesel - easy child 1 and I can pull 27mpg out of that truck - husband, 15 if he knows I'm watching). When his buddy, that went to look at the mule with him, asked how the fuel mileage was in the truck, husband laughed and said he doesn't care about fuel economy. He wants to get where he's going and he only worries when its empty. Guess I'm taking that as another "screw you" message. Whether he intended it that way or not. If I live like that, I won't have a camper. Or a horse. Or a truck! I have to watch the pennies to have the things I've got.) *** There's just so many little things...once I get started thinking, I can just come up with one after another after another...and its just royally ticks me off. [/QUOTE]
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