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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 398289" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>DDD, I think you meant "objectively".</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Yes, difficult child 3 was. It has caused us a great deal of headache and heartache. We tried to shield him from these myths because of one belief system is proven to be only a myth of childhood, what does it teach him about all other belief (and faith) systems? Especially when we knew we were dealing with autism, I tried to prevent the Santa stuff (and easter bunny and tooth fairy - although that was less o a problem) from slipping past, but it was grandparents who SNAFUd it up on me. I got so angry - I had made it clear. Trouble was, they did not accept the diagnosis at all, were angry about it and filling difficult child 3's head with detailed stories of Santa only caused a great deal of grief. The school added to the problems - again, I had asked them to not do this. Simply being around it wasn't a problem - it was adults talking to difficult child 3 and telling him about the jolly red gentlemen who gives stuff away for nothing...</p><p></p><p>I don't know where difficult child 3 is these days with his belief systems. I don't go there.</p><p></p><p>Before difficult child 3 I would have been sad to hear of a parent censoring such stuff from their child. Now - I cheer.</p><p></p><p>However, there are other things in this story that bother me. I would try to gently find out why K feels she needs to do this. And I would respect her wishes in this - no sneaky gifts, please. Do not undermine something like this, it may have an important reason. As I did.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 398289, member: 1991"] DDD, I think you meant "objectively". Yes, difficult child 3 was. It has caused us a great deal of headache and heartache. We tried to shield him from these myths because of one belief system is proven to be only a myth of childhood, what does it teach him about all other belief (and faith) systems? Especially when we knew we were dealing with autism, I tried to prevent the Santa stuff (and easter bunny and tooth fairy - although that was less o a problem) from slipping past, but it was grandparents who SNAFUd it up on me. I got so angry - I had made it clear. Trouble was, they did not accept the diagnosis at all, were angry about it and filling difficult child 3's head with detailed stories of Santa only caused a great deal of grief. The school added to the problems - again, I had asked them to not do this. Simply being around it wasn't a problem - it was adults talking to difficult child 3 and telling him about the jolly red gentlemen who gives stuff away for nothing... I don't know where difficult child 3 is these days with his belief systems. I don't go there. Before difficult child 3 I would have been sad to hear of a parent censoring such stuff from their child. Now - I cheer. However, there are other things in this story that bother me. I would try to gently find out why K feels she needs to do this. And I would respect her wishes in this - no sneaky gifts, please. Do not undermine something like this, it may have an important reason. As I did. Marg [/QUOTE]
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