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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 102120" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>Yes, Asteroid boy is 17. </p><p></p><p>We did call the probation officer - she said there is no violation he has 3 years to complete his community service hours, and pay his restitution. SO THAT tells me someone told HIM it didn't have to be done yesterday - problem 1</p><p></p><p>I am really so beyond saying "That place wasn't a good fit." because there is NOTHING / NO PLACE that is. At least I am not in denial any longer, and I HAVE lowered the bar on my expectations of him in general. </p><p></p><p>He's a thug, a theif, who doesn't drink or do drugs yet. At best he will probably be a career criminal and live the majority of his life behind bars. He can't get along with anyone, refuses to obey ANY and I mean EVEN the tiniest request. He's vindictive and while he suffers from severe PTST - it's long ago the rest of the world got off the pity pot. If I were reading about him and didn't have him - I would tell me to call him and say "Goodbye, I don't think I want to be your Mom any more - it's too painful." AND THAT is the truth.</p><p></p><p>When I told DF they were sending him home - he said "WELL HE JUST CAN NOT COME HERE." loudly. I just rolled my eyes and then had to endure 1 1/2 hours of - "You KNOW he can not come home to live." "THey are going to have to put him somewhere besides here." I finally walked out of the room - (I wanted to scream NO JOKE HE CAN'T COME HERE? WHY DF?) THen I realized he's just as frustrated as I am, but doesn't handle stress anywhere near my capabilities. </p><p> </p><p></p><p>The caseworker said he called me because I am the most resourceful person he knows when it comes to finding placements for kids - and now? WHAT do you do when every placement in the state says "NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO" and I'm not joking even a little bit. </p><p></p><p>I suggested they take him to the state mental hospital - but he really hasn't met the criteria according to them. Sigh.....</p><p></p><p>I think when you are out of options - it's time to say goodbye. </p><p></p><p>I'll be better off NOT knowing at all what he is doing with himself. </p><p></p><p>Maybe the zoo would have him. Bootcamp said OH H* no. Not with his unstable record. </p><p></p><p>Must think on this. ANY suggestions appreciated as I am really out of think juice.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 102120, member: 4964"] Yes, Asteroid boy is 17. We did call the probation officer - she said there is no violation he has 3 years to complete his community service hours, and pay his restitution. SO THAT tells me someone told HIM it didn't have to be done yesterday - problem 1 I am really so beyond saying "That place wasn't a good fit." because there is NOTHING / NO PLACE that is. At least I am not in denial any longer, and I HAVE lowered the bar on my expectations of him in general. He's a thug, a theif, who doesn't drink or do drugs yet. At best he will probably be a career criminal and live the majority of his life behind bars. He can't get along with anyone, refuses to obey ANY and I mean EVEN the tiniest request. He's vindictive and while he suffers from severe PTST - it's long ago the rest of the world got off the pity pot. If I were reading about him and didn't have him - I would tell me to call him and say "Goodbye, I don't think I want to be your Mom any more - it's too painful." AND THAT is the truth. When I told DF they were sending him home - he said "WELL HE JUST CAN NOT COME HERE." loudly. I just rolled my eyes and then had to endure 1 1/2 hours of - "You KNOW he can not come home to live." "THey are going to have to put him somewhere besides here." I finally walked out of the room - (I wanted to scream NO JOKE HE CAN'T COME HERE? WHY DF?) THen I realized he's just as frustrated as I am, but doesn't handle stress anywhere near my capabilities. The caseworker said he called me because I am the most resourceful person he knows when it comes to finding placements for kids - and now? WHAT do you do when every placement in the state says "NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO" and I'm not joking even a little bit. I suggested they take him to the state mental hospital - but he really hasn't met the criteria according to them. Sigh..... I think when you are out of options - it's time to say goodbye. I'll be better off NOT knowing at all what he is doing with himself. Maybe the zoo would have him. Bootcamp said OH H* no. Not with his unstable record. Must think on this. ANY suggestions appreciated as I am really out of think juice. [/QUOTE]
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