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Son called to be picked up from a dangerous situation-I refused. Sorry-VERY long!
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<blockquote data-quote="scent of cedar" data-source="post: 596728" data-attributes="member: 1721"><p>Recovering is right.</p><p></p><p>It isn't going to be so hard, really. It isn't about difficult child. You don't need to change a thing about him. Each of us learns that secret, over time. It isn't about the difficult child, and it never was. It is about US. It is about deciding to love ourselves, too. </p><p></p><p>Maybe, it's even about deciding to love ourselves, more.</p><p></p><p>Maybe the way to begin this is to make a vow to yourself. A vow that you will do one good thing for YOU. It could be anything. A pair of shoes you would like to have? Make them your talisman. Buy them as a symbol of your new beginning, a symbol of your next journey. Only this journey will be a series of small steps into health, and into wholeness. </p><p></p><p>Your life is precious. Your time on this Earth is short, however long you may live.</p><p></p><p>If you decide to do this, will you share your choice of talisman with us? This is the journey we are all making, really. Some of the parents here have made it. Their journeys are easier than ours, because they have chosen to captain their own ships. They love their difficult children, too. But they don't allow their difficult children choices to determine one, smallest thing in their lives. I wonder whether the difference between those with healthy boundaries and those without them has something to do with the feeling that we've failed our difficult child children, somehow? </p><p></p><p>There has to be some explanation for the way we allow their choices to define our lives, our whole idea of who we are and what we deserve.</p><p></p><p>Responding to this post has been very good for me. </p><p></p><p>I love this site.</p><p></p><p>Barbara</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="scent of cedar, post: 596728, member: 1721"] Recovering is right. It isn't going to be so hard, really. It isn't about difficult child. You don't need to change a thing about him. Each of us learns that secret, over time. It isn't about the difficult child, and it never was. It is about US. It is about deciding to love ourselves, too. Maybe, it's even about deciding to love ourselves, more. Maybe the way to begin this is to make a vow to yourself. A vow that you will do one good thing for YOU. It could be anything. A pair of shoes you would like to have? Make them your talisman. Buy them as a symbol of your new beginning, a symbol of your next journey. Only this journey will be a series of small steps into health, and into wholeness. Your life is precious. Your time on this Earth is short, however long you may live. If you decide to do this, will you share your choice of talisman with us? This is the journey we are all making, really. Some of the parents here have made it. Their journeys are easier than ours, because they have chosen to captain their own ships. They love their difficult children, too. But they don't allow their difficult children choices to determine one, smallest thing in their lives. I wonder whether the difference between those with healthy boundaries and those without them has something to do with the feeling that we've failed our difficult child children, somehow? There has to be some explanation for the way we allow their choices to define our lives, our whole idea of who we are and what we deserve. Responding to this post has been very good for me. I love this site. Barbara [/QUOTE]
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