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Son called to be picked up from a dangerous situation-I refused. Sorry-VERY long!
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<blockquote data-quote="blackgnat" data-source="post: 596887" data-attributes="member: 13561"><p>You're all so right-I've been doing this dance for so long that I don't even KNOW what my needs are. I don't know how to take care of myself without having that underlying anxiety that somewhere and some time, he will resurface and I will have to face those agonies of letting him fail, or compromising my own well being by caving. </p><p></p><p>I don't yet know how to let go. When he was at the Mission, the actual distance between us was very healing. I guess I'm expecting the same to happen when I take him to Colorado. That's where his dad and brother live. Thing is, his brother, who is 2 years younger and doing well, has already had a bellyful of his brother. He only moved to Colorado in February so by me taking my difficult child there, I feel like I'm sabotaging my younger son's life. He had to grow up with all the attention being on his brother.</p><p></p><p>Anyway, I took him to the psychiatric hospital yesterday and they admitted him. I just dropped him off and he wanted to know if I was going to wait! It's never enough, is it? I said no . He called me last night and wanted to know if I could visit him. He's not LISTENING to me! </p><p></p><p>But that's really nothing new. As long as HIS needs are met, everything is up for negotiation...</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="blackgnat, post: 596887, member: 13561"] You're all so right-I've been doing this dance for so long that I don't even KNOW what my needs are. I don't know how to take care of myself without having that underlying anxiety that somewhere and some time, he will resurface and I will have to face those agonies of letting him fail, or compromising my own well being by caving. I don't yet know how to let go. When he was at the Mission, the actual distance between us was very healing. I guess I'm expecting the same to happen when I take him to Colorado. That's where his dad and brother live. Thing is, his brother, who is 2 years younger and doing well, has already had a bellyful of his brother. He only moved to Colorado in February so by me taking my difficult child there, I feel like I'm sabotaging my younger son's life. He had to grow up with all the attention being on his brother. Anyway, I took him to the psychiatric hospital yesterday and they admitted him. I just dropped him off and he wanted to know if I was going to wait! It's never enough, is it? I said no . He called me last night and wanted to know if I could visit him. He's not LISTENING to me! But that's really nothing new. As long as HIS needs are met, everything is up for negotiation... [/QUOTE]
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