Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
son is in partial hospitalization (PH)
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="rebelson" data-source="post: 684035" data-attributes="member: 19966"><p>You're correct, the situation could change. It's way too early to be thinking 6 months ahead. I feel like he needs to stay in FL. Maybe move a county or 2 north, to get out of the current one he's in, away from old friends.</p><p>I feel like he needs to remain in the sober living home, once he's in there, for as long as they let him. I just found out that sober housing affiliated with the PH that he's in, is short term. Usually 3months and they are released to wherever or to a halfway house.</p><p></p><p>He would not be ready to be 'out there', unmonitored, on his own after a mere 3months of being sober, considering how long he's been using. He will need to leave sober living and enter a halfway house for as long as necessary. He needs some type of accountability, surveillance (random testing). I could never handle him here, not even locally near us. Where we live, there are not a ton of AA mtgs, no halfway houses that I know of...just not the support that he has down there in south FL, Delray Beach. Where we live, it is very hilly, with narrow 2 lane roads, cliffs on each side. He would be at risk, if he even drove while 'high' or after drinking, of going over a cliff or into a ditch. I couldn't handle the stress.</p><p></p><p>He is quite confrontational with us, very reactive to me. He has issues with us and how we live our lives, even how we raise his siblings. He has no problem telling us off, arguing, berating. He butts heads with me, and it doesn't take much. He could come up here and begin using again just because being around us, is not, has not been something that's gone smoothly. NO matter how we walk on eggshells around him, something always sets him OFF. The kids cannot be subjected to that. He has been up here for 3 visits, each visit, he is good for a few days, then he becomes argumentative, nasty, etc. And starts talking about wanting to go back down to FL, even wanting to cut his trip short. We cannot live with that risk, it's a very high risk. Believe me, I'd love to have him here with us! Sadly, it's just not that simple or easy.</p><p></p><p>Also, the drug problem up here, is much scarier, drug of choice up here? METH & HEROINE. He has never done those, it could be very bad for him to be here.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="rebelson, post: 684035, member: 19966"] You're correct, the situation could change. It's way too early to be thinking 6 months ahead. I feel like he needs to stay in FL. Maybe move a county or 2 north, to get out of the current one he's in, away from old friends. I feel like he needs to remain in the sober living home, once he's in there, for as long as they let him. I just found out that sober housing affiliated with the PH that he's in, is short term. Usually 3months and they are released to wherever or to a halfway house. He would not be ready to be 'out there', unmonitored, on his own after a mere 3months of being sober, considering how long he's been using. He will need to leave sober living and enter a halfway house for as long as necessary. He needs some type of accountability, surveillance (random testing). I could never handle him here, not even locally near us. Where we live, there are not a ton of AA mtgs, no halfway houses that I know of...just not the support that he has down there in south FL, Delray Beach. Where we live, it is very hilly, with narrow 2 lane roads, cliffs on each side. He would be at risk, if he even drove while 'high' or after drinking, of going over a cliff or into a ditch. I couldn't handle the stress. He is quite confrontational with us, very reactive to me. He has issues with us and how we live our lives, even how we raise his siblings. He has no problem telling us off, arguing, berating. He butts heads with me, and it doesn't take much. He could come up here and begin using again just because being around us, is not, has not been something that's gone smoothly. NO matter how we walk on eggshells around him, something always sets him OFF. The kids cannot be subjected to that. He has been up here for 3 visits, each visit, he is good for a few days, then he becomes argumentative, nasty, etc. And starts talking about wanting to go back down to FL, even wanting to cut his trip short. We cannot live with that risk, it's a very high risk. Believe me, I'd love to have him here with us! Sadly, it's just not that simple or easy. Also, the drug problem up here, is much scarier, drug of choice up here? METH & HEROINE. He has never done those, it could be very bad for him to be here. [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
son is in partial hospitalization (PH)
Top