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<blockquote data-quote="TheWalrus" data-source="post: 686973" data-attributes="member: 19905"><p>Perhaps I am heartless, but when my daughter was "released" due to insurance, I refused to take her. They had to keep her until they could secure another placement. They literally told us she needed to be in a residential center and it would not be safe for us to take her, and then when insurance ran out, tried to tell us she had made a "miraculous turnaround" and we could take her home. I said no.</p><p></p><p>It was awful. They made us feel like horrid people and threatened to send her to a homeless shelter. I stuck to my guns. I have never seen her case worker work so hard once I said no. They had assumed I would just assume responsibility when they told me to. </p><p></p><p>She was her own worst enemy. They found a few places for her and she refused to go. She wanted to go back to living the way she wanted, drugging and doing as she chooses. She was able to talk some "friends" into taking her in. She has been thrown out three times in 3 months when people get enough of her. She too is defiant, angry, refuses to see a therapist or drug counseling, turns to drugs, and has been arrested since she got out.</p><p></p><p>I did get her SSI. I had so many things lined up for her that would have had her independent but that isn't what she wants. She wants the easy thing - to take whatever she can from whoever she can while doing whatever she wants.</p><p></p><p>As long as that is her attitude, I couldn't do it. She is disabled and I knew that without her full cooperation and commitment to getting clean and making changes, once she was in my home it would be almost impossible to get her out because her "rights" would be protected. I couldn't have her here, blowing up, harming herself, stealing, drugging, having GOD knows who in the house and going GOD knows where while I was gone. My heart so breaks for you and I wish it had not happened this way.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TheWalrus, post: 686973, member: 19905"] Perhaps I am heartless, but when my daughter was "released" due to insurance, I refused to take her. They had to keep her until they could secure another placement. They literally told us she needed to be in a residential center and it would not be safe for us to take her, and then when insurance ran out, tried to tell us she had made a "miraculous turnaround" and we could take her home. I said no. It was awful. They made us feel like horrid people and threatened to send her to a homeless shelter. I stuck to my guns. I have never seen her case worker work so hard once I said no. They had assumed I would just assume responsibility when they told me to. She was her own worst enemy. They found a few places for her and she refused to go. She wanted to go back to living the way she wanted, drugging and doing as she chooses. She was able to talk some "friends" into taking her in. She has been thrown out three times in 3 months when people get enough of her. She too is defiant, angry, refuses to see a therapist or drug counseling, turns to drugs, and has been arrested since she got out. I did get her SSI. I had so many things lined up for her that would have had her independent but that isn't what she wants. She wants the easy thing - to take whatever she can from whoever she can while doing whatever she wants. As long as that is her attitude, I couldn't do it. She is disabled and I knew that without her full cooperation and commitment to getting clean and making changes, once she was in my home it would be almost impossible to get her out because her "rights" would be protected. I couldn't have her here, blowing up, harming herself, stealing, drugging, having GOD knows who in the house and going GOD knows where while I was gone. My heart so breaks for you and I wish it had not happened this way. [/QUOTE]
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