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<blockquote data-quote="TheWalrus" data-source="post: 687030" data-attributes="member: 19905"><p>I knew my daughter was beyond my capabilities, even if I were in a position to quit my job and stay home with her. I would have been a prisoner in my own home, unable to have any peace. She has a brain injury that affects her emotions, reasoning, impulsivity and decision making (skills she was already lacking now much worse), serious physical limitations due to her injury, a full blown psychiatric disorder and drug addiction. No amount of motherly love can give her all she needs, particularly when she doesn't want it, and I knew that. I refused to give in to the guilt and pressure to take responsibility. She is an adult. Regardless of the money or insurance I knew they couldn't put her on the street and it forced them to actually work to find her placement. In the end, she refused and secured her own place to go which has had disastrous consequences. </p><p></p><p>I was lucky enough to have friends in the healthcare and mental health profession give me advice. I think many parents don't realize they have the option to say no and facilities at good at the guilt and fear games when the money runs out. At this point, you are his only advocate and that is hard. So hard. You had skilled professionals who obviously did not carry through with their responsibility to find hi the best care he qualifies for. It will be an uphill battle to do it on your own. I would begin with every assisted living, DHS, and adults with disabilities services in your area. Keep calling and making contacts, finding options. He should qualify for home health and physical therapy in your home. I would stay on the facility who discharged him, insist they find him a caseworker, and not let them shut the door on him. He is in your house now so it is time to be proactive.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TheWalrus, post: 687030, member: 19905"] I knew my daughter was beyond my capabilities, even if I were in a position to quit my job and stay home with her. I would have been a prisoner in my own home, unable to have any peace. She has a brain injury that affects her emotions, reasoning, impulsivity and decision making (skills she was already lacking now much worse), serious physical limitations due to her injury, a full blown psychiatric disorder and drug addiction. No amount of motherly love can give her all she needs, particularly when she doesn't want it, and I knew that. I refused to give in to the guilt and pressure to take responsibility. She is an adult. Regardless of the money or insurance I knew they couldn't put her on the street and it forced them to actually work to find her placement. In the end, she refused and secured her own place to go which has had disastrous consequences. I was lucky enough to have friends in the healthcare and mental health profession give me advice. I think many parents don't realize they have the option to say no and facilities at good at the guilt and fear games when the money runs out. At this point, you are his only advocate and that is hard. So hard. You had skilled professionals who obviously did not carry through with their responsibility to find hi the best care he qualifies for. It will be an uphill battle to do it on your own. I would begin with every assisted living, DHS, and adults with disabilities services in your area. Keep calling and making contacts, finding options. He should qualify for home health and physical therapy in your home. I would stay on the facility who discharged him, insist they find him a caseworker, and not let them shut the door on him. He is in your house now so it is time to be proactive. [/QUOTE]
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