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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 685641" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>Tired of 33, I am so sorry. It is so hard to watch our DCs, who have so many sorrows themselves, experience yet another sorrow. I often thought that Difficult Child's life just kept on being riddled with hard times, bad situations, people who made bad choices, and more of the same. It is hard to watch and bear with someone you love so much and want so much for. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>As sad as this is, I think it takes something like this...a wake up call...to shake them out of their habits and patterns. Maybe, just maybe, he will grieve, be sad, and then pick up the pieces and make something good with them. That is a choice we all have, no matter what. We can let something bad define us, or we can deal with it, and move on from it, having learned something important. </p><p></p><p>Can you stand back for a time and just see what he might do next before you offer anything? I know your hurting heart wants to do something for him, but right now is a pivotal moment in his life, and if he can seize it, he may turn and go in a new direction, despite this and because of this. </p><p></p><p>For 7 years they clearly cared for each other and tormented each other. It's all he's known for so very long.</p><p></p><p>Now, there will be an empty space where she was, and silence, but maybe in that silence will come peace and then something new and good for him.</p><p></p><p>See if you can wait and see, and then you can be there to help in some way once you see if he is able to take this in and do something good with it, in time.</p><p></p><p>We're here for you, and we understand the sadness you are feeling for him and I'm sure, for her, as well right now.</p><p></p><p>Warm hugs.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 685641, member: 17542"] Tired of 33, I am so sorry. It is so hard to watch our DCs, who have so many sorrows themselves, experience yet another sorrow. I often thought that Difficult Child's life just kept on being riddled with hard times, bad situations, people who made bad choices, and more of the same. It is hard to watch and bear with someone you love so much and want so much for. As sad as this is, I think it takes something like this...a wake up call...to shake them out of their habits and patterns. Maybe, just maybe, he will grieve, be sad, and then pick up the pieces and make something good with them. That is a choice we all have, no matter what. We can let something bad define us, or we can deal with it, and move on from it, having learned something important. Can you stand back for a time and just see what he might do next before you offer anything? I know your hurting heart wants to do something for him, but right now is a pivotal moment in his life, and if he can seize it, he may turn and go in a new direction, despite this and because of this. For 7 years they clearly cared for each other and tormented each other. It's all he's known for so very long. Now, there will be an empty space where she was, and silence, but maybe in that silence will come peace and then something new and good for him. See if you can wait and see, and then you can be there to help in some way once you see if he is able to take this in and do something good with it, in time. We're here for you, and we understand the sadness you are feeling for him and I'm sure, for her, as well right now. Warm hugs. [/QUOTE]
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