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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 426126" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>You do not strike me as someone who has ADD or Borderline symptoms, nor do you strike me as someone who has borderline ADD. Wait what was the question? Dratted ADD brain. FOCUS......Focus. So is that stress? Or is that ADD,because you know it's WAY easier nowadays to say "OH I have ADD." than it is to admit "I am so stressed out I'm scatterbrained." People seem to be more empathetic to the words "ADD" than they are "Scatterbrained". ADD equates to "She has a real problem" while "Scatterbrained and Stress" equates to NOT ABLE TO HANDLE LIFE and you I think are trying to comparatively rate yourself for whatever reason to other people you know and try to figure out why you can't keep up like some kind of mental score card. I don't even mean the women here. I mean the women in your life. Ones that you know personally. </p><p> </p><p>Actually I can see you in your mind going "I'm JUST", or "I ONLY" and listing the rest of what you do in your day from there as compared to someone else who you feel has more things on their plate than you. No, I haven't ever seen you post it here, I've never gotten that from your writing per se - but it eeks through a little now and then between the lines of your very guarded writing about yourself. You're very willing to talk about your kids, your marriage, your activities - but when it comes to your accomplishments, your day, yourself? Pretty much all I know are generalities. Even what you feel are specifics aren't specifics and that's okay too. Trust is a huge issue with you - I think you want friends, good friends - but my thoughts again are either you get close and get burnt, you sabotage for whatever reason and end up kinda alone. Goes back to the intamacy/trust thing. Don't think it has a thing to do with ADD. I think it's just plain lonely, bored.......wishing for more but have NO idea what....and there are SO many things out there in the world, but right now you don't feel good. </p><p> </p><p>So I guess then since I feel you are really a bright girl and I know you can do many things! I would say WHAT are things you like to do? I know the horses. That's your YOU thing. But you have kids - HOW many? And you need support but you're there at the house alone how many hours by yourself with just them to figure out how to get entertained 10-12 hours a day? Plus house work, laundry, meals, shopping? I think that bit of unorganised in you that you feel is just being overwhelmed, not ADD. Again - keep in mind - you have no help, you have a lot of stressors within each child going on, you have a stressful marriage you are working on, you have health issues, you have money issues like everyone else, and like I said before -I think you are thinking "Well I don't have a J.O.B. and as a stay at home Mom I should be running circles around this and I feel I'm failing miserably." Not true - No one walks in your moccasiains. </p><p> </p><p>Could someone come into your house, and get it organized, and take charge like 1.2.3? Sure. Now could they do it with your background, your health, married to your husband with your history???? Nope, I doubt they would do any better than you would, and THAT is the part of this that you have to realize - I AM doing the best I can - I AM going to therapy, I AM trying to work on my marriage, I AM trying to detach from a very dysfunctional and controlling teen daughter, I AM dealing with a child that has an eating disorder and is a genetic mess, I AM working on my health recently diagnosis as Multiple Sclerosis, I AM trying to work through pain and get housework done, I AM trying to deal with junk in my mental trunk, I AM doing the best I can and I AM figuring life out and seeking support of my friends. Then you make that list that says I will STOP mentally comparing myself to other women that I think are PHENOMINAL and realize I AM phenominal.....just becaues she blah blah blah doesn't make her WONDER WOMAN.....I WILL FIND AT LEAST THREE positive things to write on a sticky note about everyone in my family and leave on their door or bathroom mirror every day - self included, I WILL take a class on (soemthing I want to do - language, art, ) I will find hobbies for my kids - </p><p> </p><p>I mean you are very resourcefull - clever - and the time that you spend asking about what can I do???? I think (in my humble opinion) You can spend DOING something POSITIVE - and then see how much better accomplished you feel. I get the feeling that you need activities - lots and lots. I feel once you get moving in that direction and have what I think is a soccer mom life? You will probably feel much better, more in control and on top of your world. I think the sitting around the house is driving you buggy - and as far as money - Honey - there are TONS of things you can invent - and go do for free - you don't have to get the kids involved in soccer to be that soccer mom type - YOU just need to be the commander of your troops. More time in the field less time in the office. </p><p> </p><p>I see no evil either when friends come out and tell you -their heart. If you are scattered? You're scattered. What better way to get yourself together than to have a bunch of your friends push your **** in a pile and say "THERE! Now you're all in one place. Much easier to see all in one place. Almost like 3D without the glasses. No not that 3d - real 3d - not that DDD isn't a read 3D she's real alright - I'm talking 3d like the theater. Got it? Get it? Good"</p><p>Okay well my chat here is done. </p><p> </p><p>Off to go play with THOR ------Yowza.....God of Thunder.....can rumble me anytime. Wooooooooooo.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 426126, member: 4964"] You do not strike me as someone who has ADD or Borderline symptoms, nor do you strike me as someone who has borderline ADD. Wait what was the question? Dratted ADD brain. FOCUS......Focus. So is that stress? Or is that ADD,because you know it's WAY easier nowadays to say "OH I have ADD." than it is to admit "I am so stressed out I'm scatterbrained." People seem to be more empathetic to the words "ADD" than they are "Scatterbrained". ADD equates to "She has a real problem" while "Scatterbrained and Stress" equates to NOT ABLE TO HANDLE LIFE and you I think are trying to comparatively rate yourself for whatever reason to other people you know and try to figure out why you can't keep up like some kind of mental score card. I don't even mean the women here. I mean the women in your life. Ones that you know personally. Actually I can see you in your mind going "I'm JUST", or "I ONLY" and listing the rest of what you do in your day from there as compared to someone else who you feel has more things on their plate than you. No, I haven't ever seen you post it here, I've never gotten that from your writing per se - but it eeks through a little now and then between the lines of your very guarded writing about yourself. You're very willing to talk about your kids, your marriage, your activities - but when it comes to your accomplishments, your day, yourself? Pretty much all I know are generalities. Even what you feel are specifics aren't specifics and that's okay too. Trust is a huge issue with you - I think you want friends, good friends - but my thoughts again are either you get close and get burnt, you sabotage for whatever reason and end up kinda alone. Goes back to the intamacy/trust thing. Don't think it has a thing to do with ADD. I think it's just plain lonely, bored.......wishing for more but have NO idea what....and there are SO many things out there in the world, but right now you don't feel good. So I guess then since I feel you are really a bright girl and I know you can do many things! I would say WHAT are things you like to do? I know the horses. That's your YOU thing. But you have kids - HOW many? And you need support but you're there at the house alone how many hours by yourself with just them to figure out how to get entertained 10-12 hours a day? Plus house work, laundry, meals, shopping? I think that bit of unorganised in you that you feel is just being overwhelmed, not ADD. Again - keep in mind - you have no help, you have a lot of stressors within each child going on, you have a stressful marriage you are working on, you have health issues, you have money issues like everyone else, and like I said before -I think you are thinking "Well I don't have a J.O.B. and as a stay at home Mom I should be running circles around this and I feel I'm failing miserably." Not true - No one walks in your moccasiains. Could someone come into your house, and get it organized, and take charge like 1.2.3? Sure. Now could they do it with your background, your health, married to your husband with your history???? Nope, I doubt they would do any better than you would, and THAT is the part of this that you have to realize - I AM doing the best I can - I AM going to therapy, I AM trying to work on my marriage, I AM trying to detach from a very dysfunctional and controlling teen daughter, I AM dealing with a child that has an eating disorder and is a genetic mess, I AM working on my health recently diagnosis as Multiple Sclerosis, I AM trying to work through pain and get housework done, I AM trying to deal with junk in my mental trunk, I AM doing the best I can and I AM figuring life out and seeking support of my friends. Then you make that list that says I will STOP mentally comparing myself to other women that I think are PHENOMINAL and realize I AM phenominal.....just becaues she blah blah blah doesn't make her WONDER WOMAN.....I WILL FIND AT LEAST THREE positive things to write on a sticky note about everyone in my family and leave on their door or bathroom mirror every day - self included, I WILL take a class on (soemthing I want to do - language, art, ) I will find hobbies for my kids - I mean you are very resourcefull - clever - and the time that you spend asking about what can I do???? I think (in my humble opinion) You can spend DOING something POSITIVE - and then see how much better accomplished you feel. I get the feeling that you need activities - lots and lots. I feel once you get moving in that direction and have what I think is a soccer mom life? You will probably feel much better, more in control and on top of your world. I think the sitting around the house is driving you buggy - and as far as money - Honey - there are TONS of things you can invent - and go do for free - you don't have to get the kids involved in soccer to be that soccer mom type - YOU just need to be the commander of your troops. More time in the field less time in the office. I see no evil either when friends come out and tell you -their heart. If you are scattered? You're scattered. What better way to get yourself together than to have a bunch of your friends push your **** in a pile and say "THERE! Now you're all in one place. Much easier to see all in one place. Almost like 3D without the glasses. No not that 3d - real 3d - not that DDD isn't a read 3D she's real alright - I'm talking 3d like the theater. Got it? Get it? Good" Okay well my chat here is done. Off to go play with THOR ------Yowza.....God of Thunder.....can rumble me anytime. Wooooooooooo. [/QUOTE]
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