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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 35728" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Well, this is my last thoughts on this. There is spanking and there is beating. This is a beating and if CPS steps in and ex has to go to parenting classes, good. Someone is watching him. in my opinion he could get worse for the bruising. I agree that ex thinks he's just being a normal boy and a good beating on the <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/2012/censored2.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":censored2:" title="censored2 :censored2:" data-shortname=":censored2:" /> will help him shape up. I think in the end you'll both regret it. If he is asking you if this is child abuse (and I'd say most people would say it is), he's going to tell somebody else. And somebody is going to turn his father in, and maybe you too. If a kid came to my house and said his father hit him with a belt and caused a bruise, I'd call the cops to see the bruise. I know I'm not the only one who would do the same, so your boy is either going to have to be told to be quiet about it or this could easily turn very ugly for all of you.</p><p> Or maybe he'll start hitting your ex back when he's a teen (I knew of a situation where the boy got larger than his dad and beat him up--the cops were at the house all the time with one or the other being arrested, and this kid never got the belt--just a spanking). It's your decision. If it were my kid, I'd disregard what mom, dad, sister, etc. said. I wouldn't even ask. If I couldn't manage the child, I'd find another place for him because you don't know how he really feels. Obviously he is thinking, on some level, "This is abuse," and he's getting to the age where he's going to use that knowledge. Obviously, your boy has a psychiatric or neurological condition and hitting him won't change that. As for the school, maybe it's the honeymoon and maybe the school is easier--who knows? It won't matter how he does in school if he doesn't get treated for his disorder because it will interfere in his adult life. I'm going to bow out of this thread because it's so disturbing to me, and I hope you search your heart and get assertive for the boy's sake. I would not get this upset over a regular spanking. There is a fine line between a spanking and a beating. This was a beating. If ex's wife is laid a hand on my son, I'd call the cops. She isn't even his parent, but I hope it all works out. Take care.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 35728, member: 1550"] Well, this is my last thoughts on this. There is spanking and there is beating. This is a beating and if CPS steps in and ex has to go to parenting classes, good. Someone is watching him. in my opinion he could get worse for the bruising. I agree that ex thinks he's just being a normal boy and a good beating on the :censored: will help him shape up. I think in the end you'll both regret it. If he is asking you if this is child abuse (and I'd say most people would say it is), he's going to tell somebody else. And somebody is going to turn his father in, and maybe you too. If a kid came to my house and said his father hit him with a belt and caused a bruise, I'd call the cops to see the bruise. I know I'm not the only one who would do the same, so your boy is either going to have to be told to be quiet about it or this could easily turn very ugly for all of you. Or maybe he'll start hitting your ex back when he's a teen (I knew of a situation where the boy got larger than his dad and beat him up--the cops were at the house all the time with one or the other being arrested, and this kid never got the belt--just a spanking). It's your decision. If it were my kid, I'd disregard what mom, dad, sister, etc. said. I wouldn't even ask. If I couldn't manage the child, I'd find another place for him because you don't know how he really feels. Obviously he is thinking, on some level, "This is abuse," and he's getting to the age where he's going to use that knowledge. Obviously, your boy has a psychiatric or neurological condition and hitting him won't change that. As for the school, maybe it's the honeymoon and maybe the school is easier--who knows? It won't matter how he does in school if he doesn't get treated for his disorder because it will interfere in his adult life. I'm going to bow out of this thread because it's so disturbing to me, and I hope you search your heart and get assertive for the boy's sake. I would not get this upset over a regular spanking. There is a fine line between a spanking and a beating. This was a beating. If ex's wife is laid a hand on my son, I'd call the cops. She isn't even his parent, but I hope it all works out. Take care. [/QUOTE]
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