Little brief history, my oldest son, he's 11 was having a ton of behavior issues. His dad and I are divorced for 5 years. He has been living with me since the divorce but due to his behavior I felt like he may do better if he lived with his father. He was running away, hitting me, lying, leaving school just something every single day! So he's been with his dad now for 2 months and his dad's form of punishment is spanking. I am not a spanker, I have tried it but it did not ever work for me. I knew his dad would spank him, but I thought it's either he has a "fear" or he was going to be in jail soon. But now it's bothering me so much, his dad tells me when he's in trouble and if he got a spanking. Tonight is another one, he got into trouble at school, arguing with- teachers, and had to have the note signed and he tried to sign his dad's name, then lied about it. His dad told me he spanked him with the belt tonight. My feelings are so emotional about this. It is sickening to me to think of my son getting hit with a belt (even though I did as a child, and am fine) but I don't feel like it's helping him. He isn't as bad, but he also doesn't have brothers/sisters to fight with and whatever. He is in counseling, individual and family, he was diagnosised when he lived with me with bi polar and ADD but now at his fathers and new docs they think it's purely BiPolar (BP) or a mood disorder, but not on medications to "get a fresh start" His dad doesn't really like the medications thing. His father said the spanking is helping because he's doing things now that normal kids do, hide grades, forge name and all, instead of violent outbursts, tearing things up and all. This is so hard for me.