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<blockquote data-quote="Andy" data-source="post: 288847" data-attributes="member: 5096"><p>When I could get my difficult child to start seperating from me in that way, it was like heaven. It truly is good for them to be independent in some areas. I have sent difficult child in to therapist appointment alone (up to 5th floor) when we were running late. I was minutes after him but even that was a good thing for him to do to overcome his fears (and for me to stop being so overly protective).</p><p> </p><p>My difficult child wants to wander the fairgrounds alone on next Friday night. True, it is a very small county fair with not much attendance but still, I am not too comfortable with it. He and bowling buddy will be hanging out at the fair during the day on Friday and I will request working the front gate next to the midway with instructions of lots and lots and lots of check-ins. (Maybe I will need to tie balloons to both boys and make sure they have bright bright color shirts on so I can see them from a distance)</p><p></p><p>So, I say to difficult child, "How do you think you feel comfortable being alone at the fair at night but still panic at the thought of going to NYC with your aunt and uncle?" Even when I mentioned I would take him to the cities and leave him with his aunt and uncle for a few days as a trial run for the NYC trip, his anxiety spiked. He has come a long way but there is still work to do.</p><p> </p><p>I agree with you, as long as you feel it is safe for him to do and he is willing, it is a self esteem builder to do such things.</p><p> </p><p>I have the opposite with Diva. She will say that I should let difficult child do something like that and I would be the one to say "no" for whatever reason.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Andy, post: 288847, member: 5096"] When I could get my difficult child to start seperating from me in that way, it was like heaven. It truly is good for them to be independent in some areas. I have sent difficult child in to therapist appointment alone (up to 5th floor) when we were running late. I was minutes after him but even that was a good thing for him to do to overcome his fears (and for me to stop being so overly protective). My difficult child wants to wander the fairgrounds alone on next Friday night. True, it is a very small county fair with not much attendance but still, I am not too comfortable with it. He and bowling buddy will be hanging out at the fair during the day on Friday and I will request working the front gate next to the midway with instructions of lots and lots and lots of check-ins. (Maybe I will need to tie balloons to both boys and make sure they have bright bright color shirts on so I can see them from a distance) So, I say to difficult child, "How do you think you feel comfortable being alone at the fair at night but still panic at the thought of going to NYC with your aunt and uncle?" Even when I mentioned I would take him to the cities and leave him with his aunt and uncle for a few days as a trial run for the NYC trip, his anxiety spiked. He has come a long way but there is still work to do. I agree with you, as long as you feel it is safe for him to do and he is willing, it is a self esteem builder to do such things. I have the opposite with Diva. She will say that I should let difficult child do something like that and I would be the one to say "no" for whatever reason. [/QUOTE]
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