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<blockquote data-quote="meowbunny" data-source="post: 145687" data-attributes="member: 3626"><p>Ugh! Ugh! Ugh! Honestly, I'm impressed you've put up with it all of it this long. I'm with you on the drama -- it is too exhausting, draining. We really do reach an age, a time when we deserve so much better.</p><p> </p><p>The lack of disrespect at the boyfriend's house is his business, and his parents. If they want to put up with it, let them. However, you should not have to put up with it in your home. Walking on eggshells in your home is ridiculous. I know. I've been there done that. It really is a huge relief when you can breath in your own home.</p><p> </p><p>Believe it or not, the talk the other night is as much a part of her as last night was. She is getting some maturity and she meant all the good things she said that night. The problem is she is in the beginning stages of growing up. She still has a long way to go.</p><p> </p><p>Maybe it is time to force her to find her own place for her and her daughter. Give her a deadline by when she has to be out and absolutely stick to it. For mine, the deal was when we moved here, she would have one year to save her money to move so long as home rules were followed. When the home rules became something to circumvent, a gave her one month to find a place. Saying and doing it hurt in so many ways. She wasn't ready -- not financially nor emotionally. I worry about her a lot. But I'm gradually getting a home I can invite others into. I'm not awake half the night worrying. I can get up in the morning and do what I want or need. I don't have to hear how unfair I am in not letting her use my car, etc. It is not easy, but it can make a huge difference in your life.</p><p> </p><p>Hope you can come up with some real solutions that will make having N and A living with you bearable or that you find a way to move them out.</p><p> </p><p>HUGS</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="meowbunny, post: 145687, member: 3626"] Ugh! Ugh! Ugh! Honestly, I'm impressed you've put up with it all of it this long. I'm with you on the drama -- it is too exhausting, draining. We really do reach an age, a time when we deserve so much better. The lack of disrespect at the boyfriend's house is his business, and his parents. If they want to put up with it, let them. However, you should not have to put up with it in your home. Walking on eggshells in your home is ridiculous. I know. I've been there done that. It really is a huge relief when you can breath in your own home. Believe it or not, the talk the other night is as much a part of her as last night was. She is getting some maturity and she meant all the good things she said that night. The problem is she is in the beginning stages of growing up. She still has a long way to go. Maybe it is time to force her to find her own place for her and her daughter. Give her a deadline by when she has to be out and absolutely stick to it. For mine, the deal was when we moved here, she would have one year to save her money to move so long as home rules were followed. When the home rules became something to circumvent, a gave her one month to find a place. Saying and doing it hurt in so many ways. She wasn't ready -- not financially nor emotionally. I worry about her a lot. But I'm gradually getting a home I can invite others into. I'm not awake half the night worrying. I can get up in the morning and do what I want or need. I don't have to hear how unfair I am in not letting her use my car, etc. It is not easy, but it can make a huge difference in your life. Hope you can come up with some real solutions that will make having N and A living with you bearable or that you find a way to move them out. HUGS [/QUOTE]
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