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<blockquote data-quote="flutterbee" data-source="post: 145802"><p>Lisa - </p><p></p><p>I did look for the DBT book. I don't have it. I vaguely remember getting rid of it sometime ago. Here is the synopsis from the B&N site:</p><p></p><p></p><p>(bold added by me)</p><p></p><p>So, it can be used by patients.</p><p></p><p>When I was in the psychiatric hospital almost 6 years ago with severe depression, I was diagnosis'd with Borderline (BPD). At that time I fit it. But, I only fit the criteria when I was severely depressed. </p><p></p><p>I think I fit it also when I was younger, but I had worked on myself and self-corrected. This was years before I had even heard of Borderline (BPD). I was just a young mother with 2 young children and I was tired of being unhappy. It really was baby-steps and was a very conscious effort. And I started small. People with Borderline (BPD) have skewed thinking and I know that I tended to think that people were out to get me. I *knew* that wasn't true, but knowing it intellectually and believing it emotionally were two different things. So, I started paying attention to myself. I forced myself to make eye contact with people in the grocery store for example (instead of doing the 'if I don't see you, you don't see me' thing). Then when I got that down, I forced myself to smile at people. Then I forced myself to chit chat. It was a process that developed and I really just started paying attention to myself. For the first time, I really heard myself and what I sounded like. And then I could stop myself. </p><p></p><p>And when I was in that severe depression, I didn't have any resources left to put towards self-correcting and towards fixing my thinking...if that makes any sense. All of my resources were being used in just getting through the day. </p><p></p><p>Now, I no longer have to be so conscious of it. I'm all fixed. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> It's pretty rare and few and far between, but I still get that rage. 99.9% of the time I can handle it appropriately. Every once in a while it still comes out - when I'm overwhelmed or feeling bad. But still nowhere near like it used to be.</p><p></p><p>So, like I've said before, I feel a kinship with Nichole. She reminds me so much of myself at that age.</p><p></p><p>Sadly, I see my daughter ending up with a Borderline (BPD) diagnosis. Her therapist and I talked about it a couple of years ago. I really don't know how to thwart it, but I'm trying. I don't want her to have to go through what I did.</p><p></p><p>I'll send the books I do have to you. I'll try to get them out this week if you PM your address.</p><p></p><p>(((hugs)))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="flutterbee, post: 145802"] Lisa - I did look for the DBT book. I don't have it. I vaguely remember getting rid of it sometime ago. Here is the synopsis from the B&N site: (bold added by me) So, it can be used by patients. When I was in the psychiatric hospital almost 6 years ago with severe depression, I was diagnosis'd with Borderline (BPD). At that time I fit it. But, I only fit the criteria when I was severely depressed. I think I fit it also when I was younger, but I had worked on myself and self-corrected. This was years before I had even heard of Borderline (BPD). I was just a young mother with 2 young children and I was tired of being unhappy. It really was baby-steps and was a very conscious effort. And I started small. People with Borderline (BPD) have skewed thinking and I know that I tended to think that people were out to get me. I *knew* that wasn't true, but knowing it intellectually and believing it emotionally were two different things. So, I started paying attention to myself. I forced myself to make eye contact with people in the grocery store for example (instead of doing the 'if I don't see you, you don't see me' thing). Then when I got that down, I forced myself to smile at people. Then I forced myself to chit chat. It was a process that developed and I really just started paying attention to myself. For the first time, I really heard myself and what I sounded like. And then I could stop myself. And when I was in that severe depression, I didn't have any resources left to put towards self-correcting and towards fixing my thinking...if that makes any sense. All of my resources were being used in just getting through the day. Now, I no longer have to be so conscious of it. I'm all fixed. :) It's pretty rare and few and far between, but I still get that rage. 99.9% of the time I can handle it appropriately. Every once in a while it still comes out - when I'm overwhelmed or feeling bad. But still nowhere near like it used to be. So, like I've said before, I feel a kinship with Nichole. She reminds me so much of myself at that age. Sadly, I see my daughter ending up with a Borderline (BPD) diagnosis. Her therapist and I talked about it a couple of years ago. I really don't know how to thwart it, but I'm trying. I don't want her to have to go through what I did. I'll send the books I do have to you. I'll try to get them out this week if you PM your address. (((hugs))) [/QUOTE]
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