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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 230264" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Shawna, I'm glad you had a realtively pleasant phone call from her. It's progress.</p><p></p><p>However - pplease heed your own past wartnings and DO NOT take anything she says at face value. I remember how you told us in your earliest posts, how she lies as easily as breathing (not in those words, maybe).</p><p></p><p>So please, do not automatically accept that she is telling you the truth now. She may be telling you what she beleives to be truth, but this fight between her and the other girl, for example - I'd be wanting to know more, from an independent source. She said she got commended by someone official for defending herself and then it's in terms such as she got praised for the way she "whipped the other girl's ***"? That doesn't soundright to me.</p><p></p><p>She may have told the truth - just be wary and don't automatically take it as truth. There may be a great deal more to the story. Keep it all in your own perspective, not just hers.</p><p></p><p>She is telling you that you must have somehow antagonised this young man who was calling your place, and you KNOW that isn't true. And if it's not true then why is she upset with you for reporting him? I suspect she DID arrange for him to ring you to harass you in the expectation that it would soften you up and you would cave in and get her out of jail, but when this not only failed to happen but you also took positive action against the caller, then her original request has backfired badly and the boy copped the consequences. Her fear is, that those consequences could flow on to her when the boy takes it out on her. But who started the chain by getting him to call?</p><p></p><p>So I beleive she is still not being fully truthful with you.</p><p></p><p>I saw my sister go through similarthings with her son. Go carefully, keep your eyes wide open, watch where you put your feet, question everything you're told independently. Don't keep asking her, just take written notes of what she tells you so you can double-check when she later denies that she ever said anything of the sort, and tries to backpedal out of her lies.</p><p></p><p>She may be trying to clean up her act - I hope so. But she has to eventually make a full, honest start in order to fully clean up her act permanently.</p><p></p><p>My vote also is for you to go to court. Even if she is lying, even if it's all a front, even if she's not at all contrite - you need to see her, she needs to see you, it is all part of the perspective I think you both need. She IS your daughter, everyone needs to be reminded of that and to see that she's not just some neglected, abused kid run wild.</p><p></p><p>Hang in there, keep your Warrior Armour polished.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 230264, member: 1991"] Shawna, I'm glad you had a realtively pleasant phone call from her. It's progress. However - pplease heed your own past wartnings and DO NOT take anything she says at face value. I remember how you told us in your earliest posts, how she lies as easily as breathing (not in those words, maybe). So please, do not automatically accept that she is telling you the truth now. She may be telling you what she beleives to be truth, but this fight between her and the other girl, for example - I'd be wanting to know more, from an independent source. She said she got commended by someone official for defending herself and then it's in terms such as she got praised for the way she "whipped the other girl's ***"? That doesn't soundright to me. She may have told the truth - just be wary and don't automatically take it as truth. There may be a great deal more to the story. Keep it all in your own perspective, not just hers. She is telling you that you must have somehow antagonised this young man who was calling your place, and you KNOW that isn't true. And if it's not true then why is she upset with you for reporting him? I suspect she DID arrange for him to ring you to harass you in the expectation that it would soften you up and you would cave in and get her out of jail, but when this not only failed to happen but you also took positive action against the caller, then her original request has backfired badly and the boy copped the consequences. Her fear is, that those consequences could flow on to her when the boy takes it out on her. But who started the chain by getting him to call? So I beleive she is still not being fully truthful with you. I saw my sister go through similarthings with her son. Go carefully, keep your eyes wide open, watch where you put your feet, question everything you're told independently. Don't keep asking her, just take written notes of what she tells you so you can double-check when she later denies that she ever said anything of the sort, and tries to backpedal out of her lies. She may be trying to clean up her act - I hope so. But she has to eventually make a full, honest start in order to fully clean up her act permanently. My vote also is for you to go to court. Even if she is lying, even if it's all a front, even if she's not at all contrite - you need to see her, she needs to see you, it is all part of the perspective I think you both need. She IS your daughter, everyone needs to be reminded of that and to see that she's not just some neglected, abused kid run wild. Hang in there, keep your Warrior Armour polished. Marg [/QUOTE]
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