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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 356319" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>I hear you on the PTSD stuff. In my case it wasn't related to violence on my person, but I still had to watch how I handled myself in front of other people. My in-laws, for example, would never be happy with the knowledge I was seeing any kind of therapist over it and would have made my life a living hell if they knew there was any such problem, so I had to hide all my symptoms completely when they were around. Even flashbacks - the first one happened while they were in the room and I still knew to hide it. I had my back to them and just froze for a minute while I did some deep breathing and reminded myself that I was safe and at home. I identified the triggers and as soon as I could, I smiled and handed my task over to husband and took a few minutes out of the room to compose myself.</p><p></p><p>I knew there would be things triggering my symptoms (and there were!) over the next few years, and I just had to keep it under control. I did have a panic attack in the dentists' chair a few years later when I thought I was over it and had relaxed my guard - luckily the dentist was sympathetic. And luckily it wasn't someone like a GAL or PO.</p><p></p><p>Seriously - you need to work on self-control, but explain to them from the beginning - "I have been stressed and hurt, sometimes I find myself having to deal with the beginning of a panic attack - none of this would be happening if it wasn't for the problems the original attack caused. I am dealing with this, I am getting help. But it takes time and understanding. Please don't let it bother you, we will continue to work as a team."</p><p></p><p>You just do the best you can. Not much else you can do!</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 356319, member: 1991"] I hear you on the PTSD stuff. In my case it wasn't related to violence on my person, but I still had to watch how I handled myself in front of other people. My in-laws, for example, would never be happy with the knowledge I was seeing any kind of therapist over it and would have made my life a living hell if they knew there was any such problem, so I had to hide all my symptoms completely when they were around. Even flashbacks - the first one happened while they were in the room and I still knew to hide it. I had my back to them and just froze for a minute while I did some deep breathing and reminded myself that I was safe and at home. I identified the triggers and as soon as I could, I smiled and handed my task over to husband and took a few minutes out of the room to compose myself. I knew there would be things triggering my symptoms (and there were!) over the next few years, and I just had to keep it under control. I did have a panic attack in the dentists' chair a few years later when I thought I was over it and had relaxed my guard - luckily the dentist was sympathetic. And luckily it wasn't someone like a GAL or PO. Seriously - you need to work on self-control, but explain to them from the beginning - "I have been stressed and hurt, sometimes I find myself having to deal with the beginning of a panic attack - none of this would be happening if it wasn't for the problems the original attack caused. I am dealing with this, I am getting help. But it takes time and understanding. Please don't let it bother you, we will continue to work as a team." You just do the best you can. Not much else you can do! Marg [/QUOTE]
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