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<blockquote data-quote="Mattsmom277" data-source="post: 320975" data-attributes="member: 4264"><p>Urgh, your ex is a piece of work I tell you. I also concur that sometimes it needs to happen for us, our difficult child's, whoever, to see the writing on the wall and to let go of our wishes for a parent to be, well, a parent. </p><p></p><p>My difficult child has had a couple of short visits this year with his bio dad. Each time, he comes home hurt although he tries to disguise it. difficult child will make an effort to see the man, the man again is self focused and oblivious to his son standing before him giving him YET another chance to man up. It never happens. Most recent visit, difficult child returned and was very blase about his visit. He told me it is obvious his bio dad should not have had a child and he is grateful that he didn't go on to have more kids after difficult child. He also said that he can't see why he should continue to put up with making any effort to stay in touch when it isn't something his father seems to care about either way. The hurt seemed less close to the surface. I think it was a big step emotionally for my difficult child. </p><p></p><p>I hope that dude comes away from this with a desire to not be the one putting himself on the line in the future. </p><p></p><p>I'm all for the blazing arms and a board road trip <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /> I am loving Janet's approach to situations.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mattsmom277, post: 320975, member: 4264"] Urgh, your ex is a piece of work I tell you. I also concur that sometimes it needs to happen for us, our difficult child's, whoever, to see the writing on the wall and to let go of our wishes for a parent to be, well, a parent. My difficult child has had a couple of short visits this year with his bio dad. Each time, he comes home hurt although he tries to disguise it. difficult child will make an effort to see the man, the man again is self focused and oblivious to his son standing before him giving him YET another chance to man up. It never happens. Most recent visit, difficult child returned and was very blase about his visit. He told me it is obvious his bio dad should not have had a child and he is grateful that he didn't go on to have more kids after difficult child. He also said that he can't see why he should continue to put up with making any effort to stay in touch when it isn't something his father seems to care about either way. The hurt seemed less close to the surface. I think it was a big step emotionally for my difficult child. I hope that dude comes away from this with a desire to not be the one putting himself on the line in the future. I'm all for the blazing arms and a board road trip ;) I am loving Janet's approach to situations. [/QUOTE]
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