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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 359275" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>I agree- he's hell bent on breaking the rules and that's why I don't think it matters what the rules are- changing them to "meet" his wants or motivate him only seems to feed into his belief that he can do whatever he wants when he gets like this. Our MST guy had already been lead to believe that my parenting was the problem before he got involved a couple of years ago and that I could not be trusted so that lead to our friction and my lack of faith in his approach working- just like the therapist in Department of Juvenile Justice- if they already believe that the problem was that I'm a psycho or defiant or too strict on difficult child they can't see the forest for the trees. It seems simpler every day to me- my bro convinced the GAL of this and it got spread around and that's why the previous PO and others kept approaching things that way and completely ignoring my input. In the meantime, difficult child has thrown in the towel on a decent life and soaked this avenue for everything it's worth. So now I'm left with zero faith in the system and mad as heck at them over there and they see this attitude as being the cause of the problem instead of the result of their stupid decisions.</p><p></p><p>You know when I was exploring the mental health avenue for difficult child, some claimed I was giving difficult child an excuse and denying his behavior problems and they didn't want to go that route. But then when he was not in mental health treatment upon leaving Department of Juvenile Justice ( as far as a psychiatrist and diagnosis and treatment plan), they tried to act like I was not providing necessary treatment for him but that didn't last 2 days because it was Department of Juvenile Justice that took him off and I had only ask the psychiatrist there to review difficult child's needs and couldn't have legally told them what to do even if I'd tried so they can't pin that on me. And they order stuff but just like before, we can't maintain stability long enough for these things to even start. </p><p></p><p>But you think it would cross anyone mind over there that this kid should have gone to a psychiatric/therapuetic oriented Residential Treatment Center (RTC)?? No way. They say it must be my fault because he keeps reoffending- but they can't understand that I'm angry because I think it's their system that failed? They have been the ones making decisions regarding difficult child for several years- they should look at those decisions instead of me if they want to find out why this hasn't worked.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 359275, member: 3699"] I agree- he's hell bent on breaking the rules and that's why I don't think it matters what the rules are- changing them to "meet" his wants or motivate him only seems to feed into his belief that he can do whatever he wants when he gets like this. Our MST guy had already been lead to believe that my parenting was the problem before he got involved a couple of years ago and that I could not be trusted so that lead to our friction and my lack of faith in his approach working- just like the therapist in Department of Juvenile Justice- if they already believe that the problem was that I'm a psycho or defiant or too strict on difficult child they can't see the forest for the trees. It seems simpler every day to me- my bro convinced the GAL of this and it got spread around and that's why the previous PO and others kept approaching things that way and completely ignoring my input. In the meantime, difficult child has thrown in the towel on a decent life and soaked this avenue for everything it's worth. So now I'm left with zero faith in the system and mad as heck at them over there and they see this attitude as being the cause of the problem instead of the result of their stupid decisions. You know when I was exploring the mental health avenue for difficult child, some claimed I was giving difficult child an excuse and denying his behavior problems and they didn't want to go that route. But then when he was not in mental health treatment upon leaving Department of Juvenile Justice ( as far as a psychiatrist and diagnosis and treatment plan), they tried to act like I was not providing necessary treatment for him but that didn't last 2 days because it was Department of Juvenile Justice that took him off and I had only ask the psychiatrist there to review difficult child's needs and couldn't have legally told them what to do even if I'd tried so they can't pin that on me. And they order stuff but just like before, we can't maintain stability long enough for these things to even start. But you think it would cross anyone mind over there that this kid should have gone to a psychiatric/therapuetic oriented Residential Treatment Center (RTC)?? No way. They say it must be my fault because he keeps reoffending- but they can't understand that I'm angry because I think it's their system that failed? They have been the ones making decisions regarding difficult child for several years- they should look at those decisions instead of me if they want to find out why this hasn't worked. [/QUOTE]
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