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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 359294" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>Thank you. Going back to the MST- it isn't like it's an ongoing, floating option or court order at this point in time. I don't think any effort would work right now but when difficult child is trying, normal typical rewards and consequences seem to work just fine. Still, I really do not buy into the MST concept for a difficult child like my son. I think it can be very useful in some situations but I simply have no faith that if difficult child had signed a contract yesterday and I'd coopked something he liked better for dinner last night, he wouldn't have done this. And yes, I have a problem with the stance that if I feel I have a valid concern about a specific court order so I question it or linger on it I am jumped on like flies on *stuff* but with difficult child, it should be a message of "oh, honey, I'll change ABC- now will you please agree not to break the law anymore and sign this paper saying you mean it" for a kid his age with no diagnosis in place- as far as a diagnosis that would inhibit his ability to understand right from wrong or be able to comply with it. There was nothing else that came up after several meetings with the MST guy or dss or anyone else- there were no suggestions that I needed to provide better structure or change something in the homelife, etc. </p><p></p><p>Originally though- I didn't want to go the MST route simply because of difficult child's diagnosis and recommended treatment at the time which was 1) inconsistent with MST and 2) with MST you are not allowed to continue with another treatment plan as long as you are on MST. Also though, the guy did mislead himself and treated me like dirt but now it's clearer that I wasn't paranoid about this- this stuff got spread around and there was a label on me before I'd even meet a person over there. And I most definitely can see that people are assuming those things are true instead of looking at facts and forming their own objective opinion on the facts they see and that would influence the way the MST guy handled things with us.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 359294, member: 3699"] Thank you. Going back to the MST- it isn't like it's an ongoing, floating option or court order at this point in time. I don't think any effort would work right now but when difficult child is trying, normal typical rewards and consequences seem to work just fine. Still, I really do not buy into the MST concept for a difficult child like my son. I think it can be very useful in some situations but I simply have no faith that if difficult child had signed a contract yesterday and I'd coopked something he liked better for dinner last night, he wouldn't have done this. And yes, I have a problem with the stance that if I feel I have a valid concern about a specific court order so I question it or linger on it I am jumped on like flies on *stuff* but with difficult child, it should be a message of "oh, honey, I'll change ABC- now will you please agree not to break the law anymore and sign this paper saying you mean it" for a kid his age with no diagnosis in place- as far as a diagnosis that would inhibit his ability to understand right from wrong or be able to comply with it. There was nothing else that came up after several meetings with the MST guy or dss or anyone else- there were no suggestions that I needed to provide better structure or change something in the homelife, etc. Originally though- I didn't want to go the MST route simply because of difficult child's diagnosis and recommended treatment at the time which was 1) inconsistent with MST and 2) with MST you are not allowed to continue with another treatment plan as long as you are on MST. Also though, the guy did mislead himself and treated me like dirt but now it's clearer that I wasn't paranoid about this- this stuff got spread around and there was a label on me before I'd even meet a person over there. And I most definitely can see that people are assuming those things are true instead of looking at facts and forming their own objective opinion on the facts they see and that would influence the way the MST guy handled things with us. [/QUOTE]
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