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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 359295" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>I told the PO after court last week- you all put him Department of Juvenile Justice for over a year and we completely lost our bond and he formed more of an identification with other kids in Department of Juvenile Justice. He got out and had no respect for PO's rules or mine (let's not forget- it's not just me he's being defiant with) and went wild because he no lionger has a guard standing over him and no longer identifies with me or PO as an authority figure that he's going to respect. So then you lock him up for 3 weeks and now you are expecting a different person?</p><p></p><p>My lack of faith isn't defiance- it is trying not to be in denial and trying to see that it is insane when one continues down a path repetitavely expecting a different result.</p><p></p><p>Yes, I still believe that the therapeutic based Residential Treatment Center (RTC) would have been a better choice for difficult child than Department of Juvenile Justice if they had followed the recommendations of the psychiatrists in place at that time. But it doesn't make any difference now- that option is gone for good.</p><p></p><p>They only have two options- dss with my bro or back to Department of Juvenile Justice. Obviously, the def attny will advocate for dss and since he mislead me and ended up basicly handpicking the current GAL, I would almost guarantee that this GAL will advocate for dss, too. DSS has no choice but to send difficult child to my bro if he's turned over to them. </p><p></p><p>Of course we have that law here where judge's, attny's, PO's, and dss cannot be held legally accountable for making the wrong choice that leads a kid to be harmed. Unlike me- if I choose to send my son somewhere where he was at risk of being molested or abused in some fashion I would be thrown in jail in a heartbeat. They can advocate for it and make that choice- knowing that risk is there and not be held accountable if it turns out to be the worst.</p><p></p><p>And if they think the stress from their threats and accusations and verbal bashing of me, their requirements for me to pay for it all yet be there for all these things and keep difficult child supervised all the time, while knowing these are difficult child's only two options while he continues to go around every requirement he can is leading me to be the best parent I can be - they are sadly mistaken.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 359295, member: 3699"] I told the PO after court last week- you all put him Department of Juvenile Justice for over a year and we completely lost our bond and he formed more of an identification with other kids in Department of Juvenile Justice. He got out and had no respect for PO's rules or mine (let's not forget- it's not just me he's being defiant with) and went wild because he no lionger has a guard standing over him and no longer identifies with me or PO as an authority figure that he's going to respect. So then you lock him up for 3 weeks and now you are expecting a different person? My lack of faith isn't defiance- it is trying not to be in denial and trying to see that it is insane when one continues down a path repetitavely expecting a different result. Yes, I still believe that the therapeutic based Residential Treatment Center (RTC) would have been a better choice for difficult child than Department of Juvenile Justice if they had followed the recommendations of the psychiatrists in place at that time. But it doesn't make any difference now- that option is gone for good. They only have two options- dss with my bro or back to Department of Juvenile Justice. Obviously, the def attny will advocate for dss and since he mislead me and ended up basicly handpicking the current GAL, I would almost guarantee that this GAL will advocate for dss, too. DSS has no choice but to send difficult child to my bro if he's turned over to them. Of course we have that law here where judge's, attny's, PO's, and dss cannot be held legally accountable for making the wrong choice that leads a kid to be harmed. Unlike me- if I choose to send my son somewhere where he was at risk of being molested or abused in some fashion I would be thrown in jail in a heartbeat. They can advocate for it and make that choice- knowing that risk is there and not be held accountable if it turns out to be the worst. And if they think the stress from their threats and accusations and verbal bashing of me, their requirements for me to pay for it all yet be there for all these things and keep difficult child supervised all the time, while knowing these are difficult child's only two options while he continues to go around every requirement he can is leading me to be the best parent I can be - they are sadly mistaken. [/QUOTE]
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