Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
Start of the next round
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 359429" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>been there done that- thaat's what I did 2-3 years ago. I was waiting on the appointment for the MDE led by our state expert psychiatrist when the GAL told the judge difficult child should have MST. After the evaluation came in - and yes difficult child was on medications- the probation officer at that time ordered me not to follow those recommendations and only comply with MST. I didn't think she had authority to order that either and used the same arguments you have stated. I still had to request a hearing with the judge to have that order changed and get permission to follow recs of psychiatrist. I have not been exagerating when I say tthese people take over every decision. Now maybe the probation officer wouldn't have ordered me to ignore those recs in the first place if they hadn't already been convinced by my bro that I was not credible, but still- after the judge changed the court order, essentially over-riding the PO- I had difficult child on medications per his psychiatrist until Department of Juvenile Justice took him off. I have to say- I am not so sure they were helping. They definitely didn't solve anything. Now a few weeks ago when difficult child was sent to detention, they had their own people evaluation difficult child. Not a psychiatrist and nowhere close to a thorough evaluation but she determioned it was nothing but CD. They would have one fit if I took difficult child somewhere else and came up with something contradictory to that. Oh- and current PO told this evaluator what results he wanted to see on the evaluation- PO told me himself. And this was why I was concerned about letting them evaluation me the way they had originally planned- the outcome is just too controlled by what courts people already have in their minds. Remember- the pprevious PO had the court's mental health person refuse to sign the psychiatrist's order for ggfg to go to Residential Treatment Center (RTC) because the PO "didn't think he needed it and if she had thought he needed it, she would have already ordered it".</p><p></p><p>Now, due to the way they have handled things, I no longer have a stable job with benefits and medicaid dropped difficult child when he was turned over to Department of Juvenile Justice. Things haven't lit long enough for me to start pursuing some path of where to go from here as far as income, insurance, etc. difficult child gets back in their hands too soon for me to get him to a psychiatrist anyway.</p><p></p><p>I did tell PO that I don''t think difficult child is acting normally- even for a kid who gets into trouble. PO is starting to come around to that, I think, but he says it doesn't matter until difficult child gets to a point where he's trying. I understand the point that difficult child might not get to that point without mental health treatment however as I said- they most definitely have made it clear that they will be the ones to determine that. And now they are taking control of my mental health. Sigh.</p><p></p><p>This whole approach of them tieing my hands with decisions because they don't trust me to make them but then not addressing things adequately themselves is what leads me to snap off at them and say things that digs myself in deeper with them.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 359429, member: 3699"] been there done that- thaat's what I did 2-3 years ago. I was waiting on the appointment for the MDE led by our state expert psychiatrist when the GAL told the judge difficult child should have MST. After the evaluation came in - and yes difficult child was on medications- the probation officer at that time ordered me not to follow those recommendations and only comply with MST. I didn't think she had authority to order that either and used the same arguments you have stated. I still had to request a hearing with the judge to have that order changed and get permission to follow recs of psychiatrist. I have not been exagerating when I say tthese people take over every decision. Now maybe the probation officer wouldn't have ordered me to ignore those recs in the first place if they hadn't already been convinced by my bro that I was not credible, but still- after the judge changed the court order, essentially over-riding the PO- I had difficult child on medications per his psychiatrist until Department of Juvenile Justice took him off. I have to say- I am not so sure they were helping. They definitely didn't solve anything. Now a few weeks ago when difficult child was sent to detention, they had their own people evaluation difficult child. Not a psychiatrist and nowhere close to a thorough evaluation but she determioned it was nothing but CD. They would have one fit if I took difficult child somewhere else and came up with something contradictory to that. Oh- and current PO told this evaluator what results he wanted to see on the evaluation- PO told me himself. And this was why I was concerned about letting them evaluation me the way they had originally planned- the outcome is just too controlled by what courts people already have in their minds. Remember- the pprevious PO had the court's mental health person refuse to sign the psychiatrist's order for ggfg to go to Residential Treatment Center (RTC) because the PO "didn't think he needed it and if she had thought he needed it, she would have already ordered it". Now, due to the way they have handled things, I no longer have a stable job with benefits and medicaid dropped difficult child when he was turned over to Department of Juvenile Justice. Things haven't lit long enough for me to start pursuing some path of where to go from here as far as income, insurance, etc. difficult child gets back in their hands too soon for me to get him to a psychiatrist anyway. I did tell PO that I don''t think difficult child is acting normally- even for a kid who gets into trouble. PO is starting to come around to that, I think, but he says it doesn't matter until difficult child gets to a point where he's trying. I understand the point that difficult child might not get to that point without mental health treatment however as I said- they most definitely have made it clear that they will be the ones to determine that. And now they are taking control of my mental health. Sigh. This whole approach of them tieing my hands with decisions because they don't trust me to make them but then not addressing things adequately themselves is what leads me to snap off at them and say things that digs myself in deeper with them. [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
Start of the next round
Top