I haven't been here for a long time(at least a year). But I am just frustrated as can be. I have a 17yo son who is a compulsive liar. He always "finds" things, that just seem to belong to my husband(his father) or myself. For example, last night we celebrated Thanksgiving due to schedule issues. At the dinner table everyone stated what they were thankful for and it brought me to tears what he said. He said he was thankful for his family and parents especially. If it weren't for them he would probally be in the streets on drugs or in gangs. We then had game night after that I noticed him playing with a gold chain. I said it looked just like mine that my husband gave me a few years ago with a charm on it. He said he found it in him music class at school. That I could even ask his teacher. I went Occupational Therapist (OT) my bathroom and checked to see that mine was missing. I confronted him and just said I wanted my necklace back. He said the one in his pocket was not mine but mine was in his room. He didn't know how it got there (yeah right) but threw it in my room. I asked for the charm but he doesn't know where that is. Again I asked him today about the charm and he said "I told you that I didn't know where it was, I found the chain in the bathroom down the hall". My theory, he gave the charm to his girlfriend, who I don't like nor think is a good influence. I believe that he is getting high or faking the role around her and I have found a bag with seeds in it recently. Maybe he sold the charm or traded it for the weed. Who knows! Last week he wanted to go to a birthday party of a friends house and his girlfriend was there as well. When I picked him up he reaked of marijuana smells. I told him that he would not be going back there again. He of course said, "until I'm 18". Then Friday he asked if he could go over there and there were a few words about, but then left it alone. This leads me to believe that he wanted me to say no. He doesn't "hang up" much. Prefers to be home with family but he has the personality that he wants to be loved by a girl. I know she is sexually active and believe it or not, he isn't yet. I found a letter where she was pressuring him about it and that she thinks it is neat that he is a virgin, but she will wait until he is ready. How do you handle all of this?