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<blockquote data-quote="LittleDudesMom" data-source="post: 391434" data-attributes="member: 805"><p>I don't think there are many here who can't relate to your battle-weariness! Parenting a difficult child is probably the toughest parenting task out there. </p><p></p><p>Most of us has been in a position where we love our difficult child but just plain don't like them from time to time! Two things that have helped me over the years - keeping foremost in my mind that many of the aggravating behaviors my son has displayed were manifestations of the issues he deals with every day - inherently, kids want to be good - they want to be loved and well-liked - sometimes we can expect what our children can't give - perhaps just for that moment. Trying to keep uppermost in my mind that there was some element of "loss of control" within him and that if I were feeling this frustrated and stressed, what must he feel like inside to have all this rage and saddness and aggression and angst and loss of himself every single day? That was one of the things that helped me.</p><p></p><p>The second was his therapist/therapist. Every time difficult child went to the therapist, I spent the first 10 minutes alone with her, updating on what had been going on. During those brief times with her, I was able to get a better insight into what my son was dealing with. Over the course of the first 6-8 months of therapy, my son and I actually grew closer and, know this might sound kinda weird, but I felt more love for him than ever even though these were the worst of behavior times for him.</p><p></p><p>I would suggest you read "The Explosive Child" by Ross Greene if you haven't done so yet. We highly recommend it to all our new posters.</p><p></p><p>Adoptive parents do have additional challenges, especially with issues like Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) and genetic unknowns. There are many adoptive parents as members here who can relate, sympathize and support. I know they will be along soon. </p><p></p><p>I am glad you have found your way here. It is a place of great support and care.</p><p></p><p>Sharon</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="LittleDudesMom, post: 391434, member: 805"] I don't think there are many here who can't relate to your battle-weariness! Parenting a difficult child is probably the toughest parenting task out there. Most of us has been in a position where we love our difficult child but just plain don't like them from time to time! Two things that have helped me over the years - keeping foremost in my mind that many of the aggravating behaviors my son has displayed were manifestations of the issues he deals with every day - inherently, kids want to be good - they want to be loved and well-liked - sometimes we can expect what our children can't give - perhaps just for that moment. Trying to keep uppermost in my mind that there was some element of "loss of control" within him and that if I were feeling this frustrated and stressed, what must he feel like inside to have all this rage and saddness and aggression and angst and loss of himself every single day? That was one of the things that helped me. The second was his therapist/therapist. Every time difficult child went to the therapist, I spent the first 10 minutes alone with her, updating on what had been going on. During those brief times with her, I was able to get a better insight into what my son was dealing with. Over the course of the first 6-8 months of therapy, my son and I actually grew closer and, know this might sound kinda weird, but I felt more love for him than ever even though these were the worst of behavior times for him. I would suggest you read "The Explosive Child" by Ross Greene if you haven't done so yet. We highly recommend it to all our new posters. Adoptive parents do have additional challenges, especially with issues like Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) and genetic unknowns. There are many adoptive parents as members here who can relate, sympathize and support. I know they will be along soon. I am glad you have found your way here. It is a place of great support and care. Sharon [/QUOTE]
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