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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 358990" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I totally understand what you are saying. I would be upset. I would get a lawyer even if I had to sell everything I owned to do it. I would probably arrange a HUGE yard sale and tell everyone that it is to pay for a lawyer so I could fight the court to get what my child needed because the sympathy angle would get people to buy more.</p><p></p><p>I would put my kid's stuff up on ebay to pay for the legal advice. We would have no tv, etc... because I would sell it. The GAL could give him one, though I would not tell her that.</p><p></p><p>I would then use my lawyer to fight this before it got to this point. If my lawyer told me to go ahead and do it, I would. If there was no way I could speak to a lawyer, I would take the test. I have been burned by tdocs. I have had therapy. I still see a therapist and psychiatrist when I need to. </p><p></p><p>I HOPE and PRAY I would not get so stuck in my position that I would end up with the court giving custody to this dangerous relative simply because I would not do what they wanted. </p><p></p><p>You are not telling us new things. This has been your position since the GAL and PO got involved and didn't do what you wanted them to. You are right. Your position is understandable. </p><p></p><p>You are also making yourself LOOK paranoid and mentally ill in the court's eyes. All the court hears is your voice. Just like the cartoon where the dog just hears blah blah blah, all the court hears is you ranting. In ANY situation with a court and a judge, if you want to be heard you MUST have a lawyer speak for you. Period.</p><p></p><p>You say you never broke a law before this court order. Good for you. Me neither. The court order has been there for a year. If you EVER want this situation to progress, to move on to another issue other than you and your mental state, then you must either get a lawyer to speak for you or do what they want. There is a good chance the lawyer will want you to do it anyway and then fight whatever they order with a therapist of your own. </p><p></p><p>i am NOT unsympathetic. I DO understand. I also think that you are unable to grasp the reality of your situation from the court's view. in my humble opinion their view is the one that matters because the court can take away your freedom and keep you from EVER finding work again. They can also take difficult child away from you.</p><p></p><p>If you are willing to let difficult child go live with your bro, if you really want to walk away from it, get a lawyer and let the court know you are done. Otherwise you have to play ball with them. </p><p></p><p>It sounds like I am taking a hard line. Maybe I am. More accurately, I think at this point the court may be ready to take one with you. I can just hear your difficult child using your refusal to comply with a court order as rationale for him to ignore the judge. I can even hear him telling the PO and GAL this, because he KNOWS how you feel about them. He KNOWS it will focus attention on you.</p><p></p><p>I am sorry you are in this position. If I could change things for you I would. But the situation is what it is. </p><p></p><p>I could tell you you are right. Cause in my opinion you are. I can even blow sunshine up your hoohaw and tell you it will be okay, that the courts won't come after you. Maybe they won't. I am telling you differently because sadly the other things are NOT the reality of your situation. Reality is not always fun, but it still must be faced and dealt with.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 358990, member: 1233"] I totally understand what you are saying. I would be upset. I would get a lawyer even if I had to sell everything I owned to do it. I would probably arrange a HUGE yard sale and tell everyone that it is to pay for a lawyer so I could fight the court to get what my child needed because the sympathy angle would get people to buy more. I would put my kid's stuff up on ebay to pay for the legal advice. We would have no tv, etc... because I would sell it. The GAL could give him one, though I would not tell her that. I would then use my lawyer to fight this before it got to this point. If my lawyer told me to go ahead and do it, I would. If there was no way I could speak to a lawyer, I would take the test. I have been burned by tdocs. I have had therapy. I still see a therapist and psychiatrist when I need to. I HOPE and PRAY I would not get so stuck in my position that I would end up with the court giving custody to this dangerous relative simply because I would not do what they wanted. You are not telling us new things. This has been your position since the GAL and PO got involved and didn't do what you wanted them to. You are right. Your position is understandable. You are also making yourself LOOK paranoid and mentally ill in the court's eyes. All the court hears is your voice. Just like the cartoon where the dog just hears blah blah blah, all the court hears is you ranting. In ANY situation with a court and a judge, if you want to be heard you MUST have a lawyer speak for you. Period. You say you never broke a law before this court order. Good for you. Me neither. The court order has been there for a year. If you EVER want this situation to progress, to move on to another issue other than you and your mental state, then you must either get a lawyer to speak for you or do what they want. There is a good chance the lawyer will want you to do it anyway and then fight whatever they order with a therapist of your own. i am NOT unsympathetic. I DO understand. I also think that you are unable to grasp the reality of your situation from the court's view. in my humble opinion their view is the one that matters because the court can take away your freedom and keep you from EVER finding work again. They can also take difficult child away from you. If you are willing to let difficult child go live with your bro, if you really want to walk away from it, get a lawyer and let the court know you are done. Otherwise you have to play ball with them. It sounds like I am taking a hard line. Maybe I am. More accurately, I think at this point the court may be ready to take one with you. I can just hear your difficult child using your refusal to comply with a court order as rationale for him to ignore the judge. I can even hear him telling the PO and GAL this, because he KNOWS how you feel about them. He KNOWS it will focus attention on you. I am sorry you are in this position. If I could change things for you I would. But the situation is what it is. I could tell you you are right. Cause in my opinion you are. I can even blow sunshine up your hoohaw and tell you it will be okay, that the courts won't come after you. Maybe they won't. I am telling you differently because sadly the other things are NOT the reality of your situation. Reality is not always fun, but it still must be faced and dealt with. [/QUOTE]
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