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Step Mom of substance addicted teen, needs advice
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<blockquote data-quote="AnnieO" data-source="post: 451644" data-attributes="member: 6705"><p>SHR - WELCOME!</p><p></p><p>I, too, am a stepmom... I, too, have a teenager who has done drugs, likely more than she admits.</p><p></p><p>Now - I've had a lot more contact with O than you have with J. (by the way, if that is his real name, and your daughter's, you may want to change them for anonymity.) And the situation is clearly different. However... in my opinion, if he's denying anything SPECIFIC, the odds are it is a LIE.</p><p></p><p>And I agree with keista. Seriously, you cannot have a double standard. It doesn't matter if you don't want to lose him - if he's doing drugs, he's already lost. The only thing you can do is provide a path for him to get found again. And that means you need to make him stick to your house rules. Do NOT let him walk on you.</p><p></p><p>And please, oh please... try to get your husband on the same page... If he's not it will be so so so so so hard to enforce rules and consequences...</p><p></p><p>And if J becomes abusive? CALL.THE.COPS. I'm not kidding. been there done that never ever ever going back.</p><p></p><p><img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/hugs.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":hugs:" title="hugs :hugs:" data-shortname=":hugs:" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="AnnieO, post: 451644, member: 6705"] SHR - WELCOME! I, too, am a stepmom... I, too, have a teenager who has done drugs, likely more than she admits. Now - I've had a lot more contact with O than you have with J. (by the way, if that is his real name, and your daughter's, you may want to change them for anonymity.) And the situation is clearly different. However... in my opinion, if he's denying anything SPECIFIC, the odds are it is a LIE. And I agree with keista. Seriously, you cannot have a double standard. It doesn't matter if you don't want to lose him - if he's doing drugs, he's already lost. The only thing you can do is provide a path for him to get found again. And that means you need to make him stick to your house rules. Do NOT let him walk on you. And please, oh please... try to get your husband on the same page... If he's not it will be so so so so so hard to enforce rules and consequences... And if J becomes abusive? CALL.THE.COPS. I'm not kidding. been there done that never ever ever going back. :hugs: [/QUOTE]
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