I can deal with so many things, bad behavior, flat out defiance, meltdowns but sassy talk/backtalk just really rubs me the wrong way and ticks me off. HOW do I stop it? He does this thing where when I say something he doesn't like (usually when he's doing something he shouldn't) he'll say "EEEEEHHHH" and do his hand like a duck mouth (I have no better way to describe it). It just really gets under my skin. So, I told him that I was going to charge him a dime every time he did it and that set him off. He LOST it. That's not fair, I should pay HIM everytime I'm mean (which is all the time according to him). And I understand with his Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) he's really concerned about fair but gimme a break. He has to learn that there are rules and sometimes punishmen ISN"T fair. For most things I try to do redirection, positive discipline, token systems, but what do I do to stop this? I feel like a bad parent because I don't know how to punish him. If I take away tokens when he does something he loses control and its pointless so I stopped doing that. One therapist suggested changing to positive mode so when he's being a little, well, you know, say "Ok! Double token time! Do XYZ with a good attitude and earn double tokens!!!" Which works sometimes but I can't seem to figure out how to switch it with this sassiness. I know this seems little but its just so constant and I'm picking this battle because it drives me up the wall. I mean I posted a few weeks ago about getting spit on and not losing it but this back talk is just out of control. And you're probably going to tell me to read TEC. I need to get it out and finish it. I know this.