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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 745692" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>You cant helicopter over him like he is little. His job choices are up to him and although it matters to us if you worry, it should not be a factor in his decision. And wont be.</p><p></p><p>We love you and care but you cant tell him what to do in my opinion. Well, you can but why? Its his life. He wont listen. He is no young kid.</p><p></p><p>You cant stop him from relapsing. It is not within your control. A relapse in not something anyone but the person can prevent. You know this.</p><p></p><p>I hope you can stop worrying but if you cant, you can't.</p><p></p><p>However it would be best to see a therapist, clergy, a very wise person who wont judge etc. You have to learn to cope and accept you have no control here. You dont. None of us can control totally grown kids, whether or not they make good, bad or neutral choices.</p><p></p><p>Yes, it is hard. Wev love them and sometimes we can be positive we know best. But they do what they want to do regardless.</p><p></p><p> You are stronger than you know. You can learn in therapy (my best suggestion) to let go of his issues and focus on your own life and your husbands. I forgot if you have other kids who are doing well. If so you have that as well. You can change your panic attacks over your son. Are you in any sort of therapy to help you?</p><p></p><p>We all are with you.</p><p></p><p>Love and light!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 745692, member: 1550"] You cant helicopter over him like he is little. His job choices are up to him and although it matters to us if you worry, it should not be a factor in his decision. And wont be. We love you and care but you cant tell him what to do in my opinion. Well, you can but why? Its his life. He wont listen. He is no young kid. You cant stop him from relapsing. It is not within your control. A relapse in not something anyone but the person can prevent. You know this. I hope you can stop worrying but if you cant, you can't. However it would be best to see a therapist, clergy, a very wise person who wont judge etc. You have to learn to cope and accept you have no control here. You dont. None of us can control totally grown kids, whether or not they make good, bad or neutral choices. Yes, it is hard. Wev love them and sometimes we can be positive we know best. But they do what they want to do regardless. You are stronger than you know. You can learn in therapy (my best suggestion) to let go of his issues and focus on your own life and your husbands. I forgot if you have other kids who are doing well. If so you have that as well. You can change your panic attacks over your son. Are you in any sort of therapy to help you? We all are with you. Love and light! [/QUOTE]
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