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<blockquote data-quote="toughlovin" data-source="post: 745724" data-attributes="member: 15801"><p>I had a realization about this today with my son..... my son is actually doing pretty ok at the moment. I no longer get my hopes up and think too far ahead but just know that for the moment he is doing ok..... but for now he seems to have gotten scared about some health issues and so is taking antabuse to help him not drink, has signed up for some community college classes and has started an antidepressant. All really good things. And he is reaching out for more help from the program he is connected with and he even went to a meeting. All really good things. All of this we are being told about and is being done on his own decision without any push or prodding from me. So I was talking to someone from the program who is a support for me today..... and I was telling her this...... all this is good. And I realized that he is making some good decisions that are HIS decisions.. The fact is if I tell him to do something he won’t do it...... but him deciding to do something it Is so much better, and in fact he will often tell me he is not going to do something and then goes ahead and does it.... .it is almost like he doesnt want me to get my hopes up.</p><p></p><p>So I am really thinking he needs to get into his own recovery, do it his way with support from others and kind of tell me after the fact... he really doesnt want my involvment too much in the process. </p><p></p><p>I really think for me at least at this point in time the less said by me the better.</p><p></p><p>TL</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="toughlovin, post: 745724, member: 15801"] I had a realization about this today with my son..... my son is actually doing pretty ok at the moment. I no longer get my hopes up and think too far ahead but just know that for the moment he is doing ok..... but for now he seems to have gotten scared about some health issues and so is taking antabuse to help him not drink, has signed up for some community college classes and has started an antidepressant. All really good things. And he is reaching out for more help from the program he is connected with and he even went to a meeting. All really good things. All of this we are being told about and is being done on his own decision without any push or prodding from me. So I was talking to someone from the program who is a support for me today..... and I was telling her this...... all this is good. And I realized that he is making some good decisions that are HIS decisions.. The fact is if I tell him to do something he won’t do it...... but him deciding to do something it Is so much better, and in fact he will often tell me he is not going to do something and then goes ahead and does it.... .it is almost like he doesnt want me to get my hopes up. So I am really thinking he needs to get into his own recovery, do it his way with support from others and kind of tell me after the fact... he really doesnt want my involvment too much in the process. I really think for me at least at this point in time the less said by me the better. TL [/QUOTE]
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