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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 707222" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Maybe it is time to start looking at grandfather in a different way. Start imagining him as those old men in that Muppets show who just grumbled and grumped and never got anything done. When he starts his complaining, see the Muppet men in your head and focus on them rather than Grandfather. Then be done with the whole thing. </p><p></p><p>I know it is hard to just turn off the ugly comments, but all you are doing is giving this nasty old man the power to make you and your son miserable. Take a day and truly think about if it is worth giving this man that much power over you? Are you truly willing to ALLOW him to have so much power? Or are you going to go ahead and live your life on your terms and let him stew in his own ugliness while you go forward to enjoy your life without him? You actually don't have to consider anything he says. Just because he wants to say it doesn't mean it has any truth or meaning or value in your life. You can choose to not include him or listen to him. </p><p></p><p>When thoughts of this man come into your head, pick a topic and think of it. Think of the Muppets, or something funny that makes you smile. Think of Grumpy Cat if that helps, or of your son dancing and happy. Then go on about your day and stop fretting.</p><p></p><p>If anxiety over this old man with nothing good to say keeps overtaking you, maybe talking to a therapist would help. I know there have been times when I needed to talk with someone outside my situation to help me make sense of things.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 707222, member: 1233"] Maybe it is time to start looking at grandfather in a different way. Start imagining him as those old men in that Muppets show who just grumbled and grumped and never got anything done. When he starts his complaining, see the Muppet men in your head and focus on them rather than Grandfather. Then be done with the whole thing. I know it is hard to just turn off the ugly comments, but all you are doing is giving this nasty old man the power to make you and your son miserable. Take a day and truly think about if it is worth giving this man that much power over you? Are you truly willing to ALLOW him to have so much power? Or are you going to go ahead and live your life on your terms and let him stew in his own ugliness while you go forward to enjoy your life without him? You actually don't have to consider anything he says. Just because he wants to say it doesn't mean it has any truth or meaning or value in your life. You can choose to not include him or listen to him. When thoughts of this man come into your head, pick a topic and think of it. Think of the Muppets, or something funny that makes you smile. Think of Grumpy Cat if that helps, or of your son dancing and happy. Then go on about your day and stop fretting. If anxiety over this old man with nothing good to say keeps overtaking you, maybe talking to a therapist would help. I know there have been times when I needed to talk with someone outside my situation to help me make sense of things. [/QUOTE]
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