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<blockquote data-quote="daralex" data-source="post: 118618" data-attributes="member: 4467"><p>I am twice divorced (with very good reason) and am now with a great guy. We are together for almost 3 years. He is patient, helpful, hard worker, attentive, he cooks, he cleans - everything they're supposed to be. Just one problem - he's never had kids and he is now dealing with my 13 yr old difficult child. He's tried his best to be kind and patient with her, but she just keeps pressing buttons and pushing him to the point that he is growing further away from her. I have come to have an abundance of patience (not easy!!!!) It is something he is just learning in life as far as difficult child's go.And I guess because this is not his bio child it makes it that much harder for us to be a "unit". </p><p></p><p>We went for 2 weeks with no problems ( longest stretch in a while!) and last night she tried to be sneaky again and I had to get in the car and go track her down (she's now grounded for the rest of the weekend as she violated our behavioral contract on 3 levels)</p><p></p><p>My problem is his frustration with the situation which again leaves me right in the middle. He is justified in how he feels, but at times (like last night) it comes between us. I AM TIRED OF BEING IN THE MIDDLE!!! Can't we all just get along! I want the best for my difficult child, but I would like a little happiness in this world just for me too. It just seems no matter what that I feel caught between the two of them and end up walking around on eggshells. I am so tired of feeling tired. I don't always want to have to be the strong one for everyone. I am in charge of appeasing him and trying to "fix" her. </p><p></p><p>I get all the psychology behind both of their feelings - sometimes I just get tired of being everyone else's therapist. Thanks for letting me vent. He just left for work and I am headed for a tall glass of wine and a pint of ice cream!!!</p><p>-Dara</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="daralex, post: 118618, member: 4467"] I am twice divorced (with very good reason) and am now with a great guy. We are together for almost 3 years. He is patient, helpful, hard worker, attentive, he cooks, he cleans - everything they're supposed to be. Just one problem - he's never had kids and he is now dealing with my 13 yr old difficult child. He's tried his best to be kind and patient with her, but she just keeps pressing buttons and pushing him to the point that he is growing further away from her. I have come to have an abundance of patience (not easy!!!!) It is something he is just learning in life as far as difficult child's go.And I guess because this is not his bio child it makes it that much harder for us to be a "unit". We went for 2 weeks with no problems ( longest stretch in a while!) and last night she tried to be sneaky again and I had to get in the car and go track her down (she's now grounded for the rest of the weekend as she violated our behavioral contract on 3 levels) My problem is his frustration with the situation which again leaves me right in the middle. He is justified in how he feels, but at times (like last night) it comes between us. I AM TIRED OF BEING IN THE MIDDLE!!! Can't we all just get along! I want the best for my difficult child, but I would like a little happiness in this world just for me too. It just seems no matter what that I feel caught between the two of them and end up walking around on eggshells. I am so tired of feeling tired. I don't always want to have to be the strong one for everyone. I am in charge of appeasing him and trying to "fix" her. I get all the psychology behind both of their feelings - sometimes I just get tired of being everyone else's therapist. Thanks for letting me vent. He just left for work and I am headed for a tall glass of wine and a pint of ice cream!!! -Dara [/QUOTE]
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