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<blockquote data-quote="daralex" data-source="post: 118652" data-attributes="member: 4467"><p>I am the only one responsible for her discipline as she is uncomfotable having him discipline because he's not "dad". Her bio dad died of a drug overdose when she was 7 (we left him when she was 10 months old as he was using me for a punching bag) and step father raped her at age 8 - She has man issues to say the least! My SO said that he doesn't know if he can stop himself from wanting to blow up at her one day and that thought scares the ^%%&^% out of me. I cannot allow her to be yelled at or scared by another adult male - it would be detrimental to her. So I am in a position of trying to keep things calm in the house because I don't want her behavior to set him off. He has never once even raised his voice to me in 3 years. He is very calm by nature - but as I said, difficult child always knows how to push buttons to try to engage him. If it were up to difficult child I would not have a man in my life at all (yes, I certainly understand why!). I was alone for almost 3 years before I started this relationship (no dating at all) and was VERY careful about choosing another partner as I'm obviously not very gifted in that area. He really is a good guy. If i thought otherwise I would have shoved him out the door. I know he would never hurt her, he gets frustrated to the point of wanting to yell very loudly at her (he's never raised his voice to her either)It makes for a lot of tension and I am just soooo stuck in the middle.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="daralex, post: 118652, member: 4467"] I am the only one responsible for her discipline as she is uncomfotable having him discipline because he's not "dad". Her bio dad died of a drug overdose when she was 7 (we left him when she was 10 months old as he was using me for a punching bag) and step father raped her at age 8 - She has man issues to say the least! My SO said that he doesn't know if he can stop himself from wanting to blow up at her one day and that thought scares the ^%%&^% out of me. I cannot allow her to be yelled at or scared by another adult male - it would be detrimental to her. So I am in a position of trying to keep things calm in the house because I don't want her behavior to set him off. He has never once even raised his voice to me in 3 years. He is very calm by nature - but as I said, difficult child always knows how to push buttons to try to engage him. If it were up to difficult child I would not have a man in my life at all (yes, I certainly understand why!). I was alone for almost 3 years before I started this relationship (no dating at all) and was VERY careful about choosing another partner as I'm obviously not very gifted in that area. He really is a good guy. If i thought otherwise I would have shoved him out the door. I know he would never hurt her, he gets frustrated to the point of wanting to yell very loudly at her (he's never raised his voice to her either)It makes for a lot of tension and I am just soooo stuck in the middle. [/QUOTE]
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