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Stuck in the middle again - vent
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<blockquote data-quote="timer lady" data-source="post: 118901" data-attributes="member: 393"><p>There is one thing I wanted to remind you in this situation. Your SO is the adult in this situation....while he doesn't have to stand by & accept verbal abuse or unacceptable choices by your difficult child he is the one who has to prove to you & to your difficult child that he is safe. He will control himself even if it means taking an adult timeout by leaving the room or the house for 15 minutes to an hour.</p><p></p><p>That's what I have to do...moreover, husband has to do it on a more regular basis. kt is convinced that husband will hurt her & instead of waiting anxiously for that hurt will push every button she can - just to get it over with. Very common in kids who have been traumatized. </p><p></p><p>Take care of yourself, dara. This isn't an easy road...your difficult child has a great deal of healing to do. You have as well.<img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/angel.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":angel:" title="angel :angel:" data-shortname=":angel:" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="timer lady, post: 118901, member: 393"] There is one thing I wanted to remind you in this situation. Your SO is the adult in this situation....while he doesn't have to stand by & accept verbal abuse or unacceptable choices by your difficult child he is the one who has to prove to you & to your difficult child that he is safe. He will control himself even if it means taking an adult timeout by leaving the room or the house for 15 minutes to an hour. That's what I have to do...moreover, husband has to do it on a more regular basis. kt is convinced that husband will hurt her & instead of waiting anxiously for that hurt will push every button she can - just to get it over with. Very common in kids who have been traumatized. Take care of yourself, dara. This isn't an easy road...your difficult child has a great deal of healing to do. You have as well.:angel: [/QUOTE]
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