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<blockquote data-quote="ML" data-source="post: 118974"><p>Daralex, first of all welcome!</p><p></p><p>I feel this way too. I have read this entire thread with great interest. The wisdom of these women is amazing</p><p></p><p>I have a 9 year old difficult child. I have been married to his stepfather since he was 4. I immediately got the "you love him more than you love me". Yes, at 4 years old he was already expressing this. I can understand where he was coming from I guess. Having been through a divorce and feeling shaky from that, he had to deal with a new dynamic. Looking back on it now, I probably shouldn't have remarried so quickly. Now, 5 years later the resentment is still there. husband thinks difficult child is the way he is because I am too lenient and let him get away with too much. difficult child just thinks husband is mean. They're both right and they're wrong. So they look at me to take a side and frankly I want to tell them both to leave me out of it.</p><p></p><p>I imagine that the stepfamily dynamics are hard even in the most *normal* of families. Having our difficult children just makes magnifies everything.</p><p></p><p>TC,</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ML, post: 118974"] Daralex, first of all welcome! I feel this way too. I have read this entire thread with great interest. The wisdom of these women is amazing I have a 9 year old difficult child. I have been married to his stepfather since he was 4. I immediately got the "you love him more than you love me". Yes, at 4 years old he was already expressing this. I can understand where he was coming from I guess. Having been through a divorce and feeling shaky from that, he had to deal with a new dynamic. Looking back on it now, I probably shouldn't have remarried so quickly. Now, 5 years later the resentment is still there. husband thinks difficult child is the way he is because I am too lenient and let him get away with too much. difficult child just thinks husband is mean. They're both right and they're wrong. So they look at me to take a side and frankly I want to tell them both to leave me out of it. I imagine that the stepfamily dynamics are hard even in the most *normal* of families. Having our difficult children just makes magnifies everything. TC, [/QUOTE]
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