I agree. The symphony, the meaning. We create that together. When daughter was homeless, she would tell me wonderful stories about meaning in that time when I believed there was only destruction ~ when all I could see was what was lost from my perspective. What she was telling me Copa, is what you are telling us, here.
We are the ones who create meaning, and it is there in everything we are part of.
Yes. Is this what our kids are saying. And are we seeing through disvaluing eyes because we are ashamed that the kids are not following, like blindered sheep, the old value systems that find us, as we were discussing earlier this morning, in that place where time rushes and all the things that matter are lost, or pass unnoticed.
We concentrate on the hardships for our kids. We only see their clothing, that they sleep in places without roofs; we see them wasting precious time...but they are not. In so many ways, what they are doing is taking themselves out of time ~ out of our concept of time and its value and purpose.
Remember when I would post and post about my outrage that it seemed my kids both were throwing their "lives" away on purpose. I posted that daughter had blah, blah, blah and could have had more of it still if only she had done the responsible thing. I posted about son's lost or thrown away "potential".
I post about both my kids believing money and possessions are not the prime vale and are not even the value, at all.
And that is part of the betrayal in what our kids have done, for all of us here. We say the same kinds of things about our kids: The way they think, the things they value, the refusal to "work", to "get ahead".
The other side of that though is the viciousness in much of what the kids say ~ viciousness toward us. Are they responding, not to us, but to the roaring toxicity in the way we see who they are?
It is an essential conflict, what is happening between ourselves and our children, when viewed in this way.
Huh, Copa.
Paradigm shifts everywhere for me, this morning.
:O)
Yay. I love that.
Yes, Copa. I feel fortunate to have been given this opportunity for paradigm shifting thought.
Especially where the kids are concerned. Could this be true. I am reeling.
Cedar
