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<blockquote data-quote="busywend" data-source="post: 442167" data-attributes="member: 391"><p>Welcome!!</p><p></p><p>Do your 3 girls live with you? </p><p></p><p>Not sure how relevant that is. Well, I wonder how well he gets along with them if he did not get along with his sister. Are they biosiblings? or is StedDD a biological child of husband and ex? </p><p></p><p>Is he attached? Does he look in the eye? Give hugs? Ever? </p><p></p><p>As a stepmom, please do not judge BM. I was judged by my difficult children stepmom. I heard it all and it was all assumptions on their part. I moved my child to her dad's for a 1 year period. Did I want her? you bet I did! But, I felt it was best for her. And has she had a sibling that was feeling threatened - I might have made it a permanent move, too. As hard as that would be to do, I would do it. Parents of difficult child have thick skin. We call ourselves warrior moms. We have to make very difficult choices when it comes to our kids. Things we never imagined we would even consider let along actually go through with. </p><p>I know you will come back with, "no, I know DHs Ex does not want him.....etc" all stepmoms do. And I am sure my difficult children stepmom would, too. I guess it is natural for that judgement to occur. But, realize you were not there and you can not possibly understand what she went through. Neither can husband even if he were right there with her. </p><p></p><p>As far as discipline, it is different for a difficult child. It has to be or you will beat your head against a wall for years doing the same thing over and over and it will never improve things. So, you try something for awhile and when you see it not working, you try the next thing.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="busywend, post: 442167, member: 391"] Welcome!! Do your 3 girls live with you? Not sure how relevant that is. Well, I wonder how well he gets along with them if he did not get along with his sister. Are they biosiblings? or is StedDD a biological child of husband and ex? Is he attached? Does he look in the eye? Give hugs? Ever? As a stepmom, please do not judge BM. I was judged by my difficult children stepmom. I heard it all and it was all assumptions on their part. I moved my child to her dad's for a 1 year period. Did I want her? you bet I did! But, I felt it was best for her. And has she had a sibling that was feeling threatened - I might have made it a permanent move, too. As hard as that would be to do, I would do it. Parents of difficult child have thick skin. We call ourselves warrior moms. We have to make very difficult choices when it comes to our kids. Things we never imagined we would even consider let along actually go through with. I know you will come back with, "no, I know DHs Ex does not want him.....etc" all stepmoms do. And I am sure my difficult children stepmom would, too. I guess it is natural for that judgement to occur. But, realize you were not there and you can not possibly understand what she went through. Neither can husband even if he were right there with her. As far as discipline, it is different for a difficult child. It has to be or you will beat your head against a wall for years doing the same thing over and over and it will never improve things. So, you try something for awhile and when you see it not working, you try the next thing. [/QUOTE]
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