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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 443436" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>Welcome to the board Jewlz</p><p></p><p>Since I've been step parenting for almost 30 yrs I thought I'd chime in. lol (notice my step daughter is also a difficult child)</p><p></p><p>I'll say up front I'm an old fashioned sort of gal/mom. I don't buy into the whole "I'm not your parent so I don't get any involvement in your parenting" routine. pht. With Katie I had no desire to be her "mother", she had one already....but when she was in my home it was my rules and I enforced them right along with husband....actually I did 99 percent of the enforcing and husband was back up. (he's too wishy washy)</p><p></p><p>Obviously you care for your stepson quite a bit. He's also living in your home. Makes a big difference when they're living 24/7 in your home. House rules were for any child in the home and katie was expected when she was visiting to follow the same routine, chores, and rules as her siblings. In my opinion, it's what gives a child a sense of home/family. Take that away and you're begging for chaos. It couldn't have been too awful for katie since she spent most of her childhood begging us to try for custody. </p><p></p><p>I took great pains to keep a friendly relationship with her biomom. But I realize that is not always possible. </p><p></p><p>hugs</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 443436, member: 84"] Welcome to the board Jewlz Since I've been step parenting for almost 30 yrs I thought I'd chime in. lol (notice my step daughter is also a difficult child) I'll say up front I'm an old fashioned sort of gal/mom. I don't buy into the whole "I'm not your parent so I don't get any involvement in your parenting" routine. pht. With Katie I had no desire to be her "mother", she had one already....but when she was in my home it was my rules and I enforced them right along with husband....actually I did 99 percent of the enforcing and husband was back up. (he's too wishy washy) Obviously you care for your stepson quite a bit. He's also living in your home. Makes a big difference when they're living 24/7 in your home. House rules were for any child in the home and katie was expected when she was visiting to follow the same routine, chores, and rules as her siblings. In my opinion, it's what gives a child a sense of home/family. Take that away and you're begging for chaos. It couldn't have been too awful for katie since she spent most of her childhood begging us to try for custody. I took great pains to keep a friendly relationship with her biomom. But I realize that is not always possible. hugs [/QUOTE]
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