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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 646307" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>RE, I am on the same page as you as how you are choosing to deal with your life. I'm also Buddhist leaning when it comes to wisdom and advice and I agree that suffering is optional, at least for long periods of time. Suffering is a behavior and neither the rich, gifted, the average person or poor are immune from it nor definitely going to suffer.</p><p></p><p>Suz, I grew up in a very well off neighborhood. Some had it all, as far as looks, money, family, you name it. Yet the man who lived across the street from our house hung himself one day, shocking everyone. Why? Who knows? He had his own business and was very well liked in the community. So suffering is a state of mind, not something you HAVE to endure. At least, I don't feel it is. I am not discounting your point of view, which was valid and a good one. On another point, I am a social liberal too and in the U.S. that makes me a "commie" to some <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite7" alt=":p" title="Stick Out Tongue :p" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":p" /> No, I'm not exaggerating!!!!! I have often thought I must have been a European in another life because American conservatism is just not me at all. Back to the topic...</p><p></p><p>I personally am choosing to use the skills I have to allow sadness for a reasonable amount of time, but then to give myself a time limit for this suffering and to move on. I have done it over and over again in my life and could have made my life far more fruitful if I had realized I couldn't control what happened to upset me and to choose to move on either with help or with my own coping skills.</p><p></p><p>RE, these days, I don't "suffer." Well, I START to suffer...lol...then say "STOP!" out loud and use distraction, which is an awesome coping mechanism to get my mind off of what I'm suffering over. By the time I've watched the great movie or read the wonderful book or exercised for an hour, my mindset is ALWAYS better. I have the kind of persoanlity that can get into quite a funk if I allow it. But only I can allow it. And only I can do what helps to get out of it.</p><p></p><p>I have seen that saying before and I liked it. Thanks for the reminder. People like me need a "tune up" every so often and these words of wisdom are so helpful for those of us prone to brooding.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 646307, member: 1550"] RE, I am on the same page as you as how you are choosing to deal with your life. I'm also Buddhist leaning when it comes to wisdom and advice and I agree that suffering is optional, at least for long periods of time. Suffering is a behavior and neither the rich, gifted, the average person or poor are immune from it nor definitely going to suffer. Suz, I grew up in a very well off neighborhood. Some had it all, as far as looks, money, family, you name it. Yet the man who lived across the street from our house hung himself one day, shocking everyone. Why? Who knows? He had his own business and was very well liked in the community. So suffering is a state of mind, not something you HAVE to endure. At least, I don't feel it is. I am not discounting your point of view, which was valid and a good one. On another point, I am a social liberal too and in the U.S. that makes me a "commie" to some :p No, I'm not exaggerating!!!!! I have often thought I must have been a European in another life because American conservatism is just not me at all. Back to the topic... I personally am choosing to use the skills I have to allow sadness for a reasonable amount of time, but then to give myself a time limit for this suffering and to move on. I have done it over and over again in my life and could have made my life far more fruitful if I had realized I couldn't control what happened to upset me and to choose to move on either with help or with my own coping skills. RE, these days, I don't "suffer." Well, I START to suffer...lol...then say "STOP!" out loud and use distraction, which is an awesome coping mechanism to get my mind off of what I'm suffering over. By the time I've watched the great movie or read the wonderful book or exercised for an hour, my mindset is ALWAYS better. I have the kind of persoanlity that can get into quite a funk if I allow it. But only I can allow it. And only I can do what helps to get out of it. I have seen that saying before and I liked it. Thanks for the reminder. People like me need a "tune up" every so often and these words of wisdom are so helpful for those of us prone to brooding. [/QUOTE]
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