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<blockquote data-quote="Tiapet" data-source="post: 564913" data-attributes="member: 455"><p>Ugh! That's all I want to say but of course can't say on this subject I have my oldest, 21. Was never interested in boys all through school until her junior/senior year of high school and that's when suddenly boys hit her radar and bam! Dating is far different then in my time. There is really is no real such thing at times. She was one on one with a boy in her junior year then in senior year 2 different ones. After that she was involved with several others. None lasted longer then 9 months since the beginning of her interests. I had rules and curfews and she had a head on her shoulders so it wasn't so bad as she's intelligent. As she aged it changed and so did her thought process and her BiPolar (BP) stepped in as well. *sigh*</p><p></p><p>Ms. Queen has been boy crazy since she was a very young child. She was desperate to have a boyfriend for years and fighting that has been very hard. I have always had a rule with her and I've also explained to her why she could not have one as she was not ready emotionally nor cognitively to grasp anything about relationships, still isn't really. When she was in 7th grade she started sneaking boyfriends at school and in the neighborhood but her brother would rat her out about it and I squashed it. She couldn't really "do" anything with them or go anywhere. At the end of last year she had a "friend" that was like a boyfriend who she was allowed to have over here as I was around and her brother never left them alone (he's a pest like that) and I allowed her to go to the movies once with him. He was really nice to her and bought her different little things though in the end it turned out he wasn't such a great person so I had to actually block him from calling sadly. This was the first year she actually had a true boyfriend and her first kiss! (at school). That relationship lasted about a month though as the boy broke up with her because she was too "weird" for him, which is true. Ms. Queen isn't "normal" compared to other girls her age which we do know and for the first time this boy WAS a normal boy not one that could be classified as a difficult child or one that was different in anyway. However I have to watch her like a hawk because she is overly ODD, doesn't understand life as a whole and is extremely free with herself in general. A very big fear we've had for years. I know it's a fine line as a parent to hold on too strongly but we MUST in her case as there is danger where she is concerned.</p><p></p><p>Mr. Busy isn't quite interested in girls. I mean he is but not overtly. He notices them but he's too shy still to actually ask a girl out. I know the time is coming when he won't be and I will have rules for him. He mostly likely will be too scared.</p><p></p><p>My rules are much like what others have said: must come to our house- they are not allowed to others house (simply because I know what goes on at others houses and the lies that are told by mine and others), they have curfews. When it's dark they need to be in (for now), if they go to the movies an adult needs to go with as teens going alone CAN and DO get in trouble (sexual or otherwise!), they are NOT allowed to ride in anyone others car unless it's a parent driving, ms. Queen can not do sleep overs because her issues are so bad and we've had trouble with that in the past with her getting in trouble online (she's banned from computers in home and at school) smoking (both things), etc. There are more and I know it sounds like I am really strict but for Ms. Queen I have to be and Mr. Busy I'm a little more relaxed as he doesn't have as many. The oldest is an adult so it's a none issue now. Her life is hers, even if I'm not happy with some of what she does.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tiapet, post: 564913, member: 455"] Ugh! That's all I want to say but of course can't say on this subject I have my oldest, 21. Was never interested in boys all through school until her junior/senior year of high school and that's when suddenly boys hit her radar and bam! Dating is far different then in my time. There is really is no real such thing at times. She was one on one with a boy in her junior year then in senior year 2 different ones. After that she was involved with several others. None lasted longer then 9 months since the beginning of her interests. I had rules and curfews and she had a head on her shoulders so it wasn't so bad as she's intelligent. As she aged it changed and so did her thought process and her BiPolar (BP) stepped in as well. *sigh* Ms. Queen has been boy crazy since she was a very young child. She was desperate to have a boyfriend for years and fighting that has been very hard. I have always had a rule with her and I've also explained to her why she could not have one as she was not ready emotionally nor cognitively to grasp anything about relationships, still isn't really. When she was in 7th grade she started sneaking boyfriends at school and in the neighborhood but her brother would rat her out about it and I squashed it. She couldn't really "do" anything with them or go anywhere. At the end of last year she had a "friend" that was like a boyfriend who she was allowed to have over here as I was around and her brother never left them alone (he's a pest like that) and I allowed her to go to the movies once with him. He was really nice to her and bought her different little things though in the end it turned out he wasn't such a great person so I had to actually block him from calling sadly. This was the first year she actually had a true boyfriend and her first kiss! (at school). That relationship lasted about a month though as the boy broke up with her because she was too "weird" for him, which is true. Ms. Queen isn't "normal" compared to other girls her age which we do know and for the first time this boy WAS a normal boy not one that could be classified as a difficult child or one that was different in anyway. However I have to watch her like a hawk because she is overly ODD, doesn't understand life as a whole and is extremely free with herself in general. A very big fear we've had for years. I know it's a fine line as a parent to hold on too strongly but we MUST in her case as there is danger where she is concerned. Mr. Busy isn't quite interested in girls. I mean he is but not overtly. He notices them but he's too shy still to actually ask a girl out. I know the time is coming when he won't be and I will have rules for him. He mostly likely will be too scared. My rules are much like what others have said: must come to our house- they are not allowed to others house (simply because I know what goes on at others houses and the lies that are told by mine and others), they have curfews. When it's dark they need to be in (for now), if they go to the movies an adult needs to go with as teens going alone CAN and DO get in trouble (sexual or otherwise!), they are NOT allowed to ride in anyone others car unless it's a parent driving, ms. Queen can not do sleep overs because her issues are so bad and we've had trouble with that in the past with her getting in trouble online (she's banned from computers in home and at school) smoking (both things), etc. There are more and I know it sounds like I am really strict but for Ms. Queen I have to be and Mr. Busy I'm a little more relaxed as he doesn't have as many. The oldest is an adult so it's a none issue now. Her life is hers, even if I'm not happy with some of what she does. [/QUOTE]
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