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<blockquote data-quote="AnnieO" data-source="post: 268969" data-attributes="member: 6705"><p>Heather,</p><p> </p><p>All kinds of things show up on the internet. I magically appeared under my first married name a couple of months ago - out of NOWHERE. With my address when I was living with the X. My current info vanished at the same time. Don't panic.</p><p> </p><p>If you do believe he's back in our lovely state, there are some steps you can take (not in any particular order):</p><p> </p><p>Make sure your address and telephone number are unlisted. Go to searchbug.com, look yourself up, and remove the listings. White Pages will allow you to do this as well.</p><p> </p><p>Get a couple of inexpensive door alarms. They cost about $12.99 - $17.99 each (window alarms are about $5.99 each). They sell them (for sure, I've seen them) at Meijer and Lowe's. Cheaper than ADT. You can set them with a PIN. Bonus - difficult child won't know the pin. So if she should let him in - !</p><p> </p><p>Call or go to the local police station and let them know you have reason to believe that he could be a danger to you and/or difficult child. Give them as much of a description as you can including name, date of birth, anything you've got. Ask for increased patrolling in your neighborhood.</p><p> </p><p>Contact difficult child's school, day care, doctors, activities etc. - make sure this is <em>in writing</em> - and give them the names of those people allowed to pick her up and/or make any arrangements for you. Let them know that if there is any change you will specify this <em>in writing</em> and they must call you to verify. Tell them, too, that you have reason to believe that he could be dangerous.</p><p> </p><p>In Ohio, if you are afraid, you can get a protective order <em>ex parte</em>. Keep in mind that this is a piece of paper and will not stop a real criminal. However, with it, he so much as sets foot within a predestined distance of you and/or difficult child (usually 500 feet), you call the cops and he is arrested for violating the PO. He does have to be served, though, so if you have no current address that could be an issue. Trespassing, though, is a BIG ISSUE in my area.</p><p> </p><p>Last - hugs. And good luck. I'd send you my dog but he'd lick you to death.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="AnnieO, post: 268969, member: 6705"] Heather, All kinds of things show up on the internet. I magically appeared under my first married name a couple of months ago - out of NOWHERE. With my address when I was living with the X. My current info vanished at the same time. Don't panic. If you do believe he's back in our lovely state, there are some steps you can take (not in any particular order): Make sure your address and telephone number are unlisted. Go to searchbug.com, look yourself up, and remove the listings. White Pages will allow you to do this as well. Get a couple of inexpensive door alarms. They cost about $12.99 - $17.99 each (window alarms are about $5.99 each). They sell them (for sure, I've seen them) at Meijer and Lowe's. Cheaper than ADT. You can set them with a PIN. Bonus - difficult child won't know the pin. So if she should let him in - ! Call or go to the local police station and let them know you have reason to believe that he could be a danger to you and/or difficult child. Give them as much of a description as you can including name, date of birth, anything you've got. Ask for increased patrolling in your neighborhood. Contact difficult child's school, day care, doctors, activities etc. - make sure this is [I]in writing[/I] - and give them the names of those people allowed to pick her up and/or make any arrangements for you. Let them know that if there is any change you will specify this [I]in writing[/I] and they must call you to verify. Tell them, too, that you have reason to believe that he could be dangerous. In Ohio, if you are afraid, you can get a protective order [I]ex parte[/I]. Keep in mind that this is a piece of paper and will not stop a real criminal. However, with it, he so much as sets foot within a predestined distance of you and/or difficult child (usually 500 feet), you call the cops and he is arrested for violating the PO. He does have to be served, though, so if you have no current address that could be an issue. Trespassing, though, is a BIG ISSUE in my area. Last - hugs. And good luck. I'd send you my dog but he'd lick you to death. [/QUOTE]
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