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<blockquote data-quote="Mikey" data-source="post: 32500" data-attributes="member: 3579"><p><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Marguerite</div><div class="ubbcode-body">...I remember being incredibly clucky from a very young age. In my case I think it was less hormonal and more social although I've never fully understood it.</div></div></p><p></p><p>This is actually something I've thought about for many years. Starting with the fact that all but one of my teen friends either ended up pregnant, or their gfs got pregnant. And now, I'm a parent of both male and female teens.</p><p></p><p>Unfortunately, I think that biology works against us. When the body is "ready", the brain short-circuits and the hormones rage. It wasn't so long ago that "kids" were getting married at 14 or 15, having babies, and starting down that road. Back then, the life expectancy was shorter, and life was different, so this wasn't considered weird. </p><p></p><p>I don't think biology has changed that much in the last 100 years, but life certainly has - as have our "morals". Our life expectancy has increased. And even though we push our kids to grow up faster (emotionally <strong>and</strong> academically), we somehow expect them to slow down biologically! Paradox!</p><p></p><p>Life itself is different now, too. Gone are the farms, mines, textiles, and other industries where you depended on lots of "young" labor. Now you now need an education (mostly) to support yourself, that education takes a long time to get, and while being educated you're still considered a child. Once a girl is pg, there just isn't "room" or energy for another child when the mother is still considered a child herself. Families are also now stressed more, and there may not be any extra capacity for the parents of a child who is now a parent herself.</p><p></p><p>Add on to that the fact that our morals have now changed to where "underage" pregnancy isn't just a huge burden, it's now "wrong", and both the parents and the child/mother suffer for it.</p><p></p><p>Sorry for the soapbox, but this is one battle that I think we're losing as parents. We cannot ignore the biological facts of our kids bodies. Unless we bring back chastity belts, neutering, or sex-segregated work camps, we cannot <strong>prevent</strong> these things from happening. What we can do (but aren't doing very well) is helping our kids understand what's happening to their bodies, and giving them the resources they need to either control the appetite, or control the consequences of indulging.</p><p></p><p>Again, sorry for the soapbox, but this is a real touchy subject for me. And it's a tragedy for both the parents who face this problem, and society in general, but until we reconcile morality and "modern life" with biological fact, we will continue to face this problem.</p><p></p><p>And let's not even start talking about adding in "difficult child-ness" to the mess that is adolescent sexual awakening.....</p><p></p><p>End of rant.</p><p></p><p> :hypnosis: </p><p></p><p>Mikey</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mikey, post: 32500, member: 3579"] <div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Marguerite</div><div class="ubbcode-body">...I remember being incredibly clucky from a very young age. In my case I think it was less hormonal and more social although I've never fully understood it.</div></div> This is actually something I've thought about for many years. Starting with the fact that all but one of my teen friends either ended up pregnant, or their gfs got pregnant. And now, I'm a parent of both male and female teens. Unfortunately, I think that biology works against us. When the body is "ready", the brain short-circuits and the hormones rage. It wasn't so long ago that "kids" were getting married at 14 or 15, having babies, and starting down that road. Back then, the life expectancy was shorter, and life was different, so this wasn't considered weird. I don't think biology has changed that much in the last 100 years, but life certainly has - as have our "morals". Our life expectancy has increased. And even though we push our kids to grow up faster (emotionally [b]and[/b] academically), we somehow expect them to slow down biologically! Paradox! Life itself is different now, too. Gone are the farms, mines, textiles, and other industries where you depended on lots of "young" labor. Now you now need an education (mostly) to support yourself, that education takes a long time to get, and while being educated you're still considered a child. Once a girl is pg, there just isn't "room" or energy for another child when the mother is still considered a child herself. Families are also now stressed more, and there may not be any extra capacity for the parents of a child who is now a parent herself. Add on to that the fact that our morals have now changed to where "underage" pregnancy isn't just a huge burden, it's now "wrong", and both the parents and the child/mother suffer for it. Sorry for the soapbox, but this is one battle that I think we're losing as parents. We cannot ignore the biological facts of our kids bodies. Unless we bring back chastity belts, neutering, or sex-segregated work camps, we cannot [b]prevent[/b] these things from happening. What we can do (but aren't doing very well) is helping our kids understand what's happening to their bodies, and giving them the resources they need to either control the appetite, or control the consequences of indulging. Again, sorry for the soapbox, but this is a real touchy subject for me. And it's a tragedy for both the parents who face this problem, and society in general, but until we reconcile morality and "modern life" with biological fact, we will continue to face this problem. And let's not even start talking about adding in "difficult child-ness" to the mess that is adolescent sexual awakening..... End of rant. [img]:hypnosis:[/img] Mikey [/QUOTE]
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