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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 317781" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>I don't remember what the "correct clinical" name is but sometimes people hear what they anticipate hearing and therefore are resistant to advice from a provider. Deep down in your heart you "know" that strangers can not make him into the kid you dreamed of having. He is almost grown now and his future is in his hands...with a little supplemental care from you.</p><p> </p><p>Although I am on your team I consistently "hear" you being adversarial or distanced from input. You are a highly anxious person who is unable to tolerate the medications that lower anxiety. Due to the economy you have a huge relocation challenge coming up soon. You have the sale of your house, your current financial straights, the cost/separation from the dogs that you have decided to take, government paperwork to complete and check and recheck........AND........evidently, you are hoping that one of the tdocs or counselors is going to say to you "we are wrong and you are right". It's not going to happen. </p><p> </p><p>Most of us with difficult children carry painful baggage from interactions that hurt us or hurt our children. To this day when I allow myself to picture a few people who impacted our family I get irate and can feel my blood pressure</p><p>going up. Don't keep going over and over the PO etc. that caused you grief. Have confidence that when your son is released you all will be able to try a new lifestyle together with success. History is history. IF, and I personally doubt it, your son retrogresses or threatens violence THEN you</p><p>can take action with the resources available at that time. What you tried before didn't work. What he chose to do was inappropriate. Nobody can relate to the past OR the future. You have got to think positively and pray for the best. DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 317781, member: 35"] I don't remember what the "correct clinical" name is but sometimes people hear what they anticipate hearing and therefore are resistant to advice from a provider. Deep down in your heart you "know" that strangers can not make him into the kid you dreamed of having. He is almost grown now and his future is in his hands...with a little supplemental care from you. Although I am on your team I consistently "hear" you being adversarial or distanced from input. You are a highly anxious person who is unable to tolerate the medications that lower anxiety. Due to the economy you have a huge relocation challenge coming up soon. You have the sale of your house, your current financial straights, the cost/separation from the dogs that you have decided to take, government paperwork to complete and check and recheck........AND........evidently, you are hoping that one of the tdocs or counselors is going to say to you "we are wrong and you are right". It's not going to happen. Most of us with difficult children carry painful baggage from interactions that hurt us or hurt our children. To this day when I allow myself to picture a few people who impacted our family I get irate and can feel my blood pressure going up. Don't keep going over and over the PO etc. that caused you grief. Have confidence that when your son is released you all will be able to try a new lifestyle together with success. History is history. IF, and I personally doubt it, your son retrogresses or threatens violence THEN you can take action with the resources available at that time. What you tried before didn't work. What he chose to do was inappropriate. Nobody can relate to the past OR the future. You have got to think positively and pray for the best. DDD [/QUOTE]
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