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Talked to husband last night. Ideas? Thoughts? Am I expecting too much?
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<blockquote data-quote="busywend" data-source="post: 418125" data-attributes="member: 391"><p>This one might require an introspection. </p><p> </p><p>I think you missed the boat on his comment here: </p><p></p><p> </p><p>I think he meant you turned away his offer for help. YOU said no thank you, I do not need your help. You did. </p><p> </p><p>I think there are 2 things going on here (with love, of course!): </p><p> </p><p>1.) I think you are controlling and your way is the best way in your opinion. </p><p>2.) I think you work harder than the average person. </p><p> </p><p>So, on #1 - I get that. My husband is that way. When he tries to correct something I am doing to his way, or comments that it should be done a certain way - my first reaction in my head is 'then do it yourself'. So, this is something you could work on. His way may not be the best and it sounds like it sometimes causes extra work in the end. Frustrating for sure. But, he needs to just do it - even the fixing of it - until he gets it right. I know, from some things you have said - this might not be possible. But, I still think you have a vision on your mind of how to get it done and I believe your way is good, because you do get so much done. You are a planner & a thinker and you are GOOD at it. </p><p> </p><p>On #2, I seriously would not be able to accomplish all you do in a day and I know my husband would not either. In fact, I know very few people in my life that could. So, perhaps he is doing things on the level that (from my experience) most people do in a day - but it is not up to your standards, which could be too high. Does that make sense? </p><p> </p><p>I really do not wish to offend. I do not think these are bad traits on your part. Just hard to manage through with another person.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="busywend, post: 418125, member: 391"] This one might require an introspection. I think you missed the boat on his comment here: I think he meant you turned away his offer for help. YOU said no thank you, I do not need your help. You did. I think there are 2 things going on here (with love, of course!): 1.) I think you are controlling and your way is the best way in your opinion. 2.) I think you work harder than the average person. So, on #1 - I get that. My husband is that way. When he tries to correct something I am doing to his way, or comments that it should be done a certain way - my first reaction in my head is 'then do it yourself'. So, this is something you could work on. His way may not be the best and it sounds like it sometimes causes extra work in the end. Frustrating for sure. But, he needs to just do it - even the fixing of it - until he gets it right. I know, from some things you have said - this might not be possible. But, I still think you have a vision on your mind of how to get it done and I believe your way is good, because you do get so much done. You are a planner & a thinker and you are GOOD at it. On #2, I seriously would not be able to accomplish all you do in a day and I know my husband would not either. In fact, I know very few people in my life that could. So, perhaps he is doing things on the level that (from my experience) most people do in a day - but it is not up to your standards, which could be too high. Does that make sense? I really do not wish to offend. I do not think these are bad traits on your part. Just hard to manage through with another person. [/QUOTE]
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