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Talked to husband last night. Ideas? Thoughts? Am I expecting too much?
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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 418421" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>That's the way to think. In sales, for example, you don't say "which house do you want to buy?" Or "let's get together sometime soon". If you want to make a sale you give options. "Shall we revisit the house on the cul de sac or would you prefer to see the house on the lake?" "Do you want to meet again this afternoon or tomorrow at lunch time?" In the real estate world and I think in other sales fields the mantra is KISS. Keep It Simple Stupid. <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/bigsmile.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":bigsmile:" title="big smile :bigsmile:" data-shortname=":bigsmile:" /> Open choice lead to no choice. Making a commitment is difficult. Analyze what would work best and then have a brief conversation with your husband. "I</p><p>really need your help. Lately I have felt overwhelmed. I need you to help me with the household. Would you please make a committment? If you will be responsible for <strong>one </strong>chore on a daily basis I believe our lives will be happier. Would you be in charge of meals and kitchen clean up each day or would you xxx every day?" </p><p> </p><p>Just like in sales I assure you it won't work if done in anger or negativity. Human nature leads all of us to want to be needed and loved and respected. I can't guarantee it will work <strong>but </strong>I think it is worth a positive shot. I wish I had followed this course a few years ago when the family was in mega crisis. I didn't. I am unhappy with the lack of chores division but it is not my husband</p><p>who dropped the ball...it was me. Good luck. DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 418421, member: 35"] That's the way to think. In sales, for example, you don't say "which house do you want to buy?" Or "let's get together sometime soon". If you want to make a sale you give options. "Shall we revisit the house on the cul de sac or would you prefer to see the house on the lake?" "Do you want to meet again this afternoon or tomorrow at lunch time?" In the real estate world and I think in other sales fields the mantra is KISS. Keep It Simple Stupid. :bigsmile: Open choice lead to no choice. Making a commitment is difficult. Analyze what would work best and then have a brief conversation with your husband. "I really need your help. Lately I have felt overwhelmed. I need you to help me with the household. Would you please make a committment? If you will be responsible for [B]one [/B]chore on a daily basis I believe our lives will be happier. Would you be in charge of meals and kitchen clean up each day or would you xxx every day?" Just like in sales I assure you it won't work if done in anger or negativity. Human nature leads all of us to want to be needed and loved and respected. I can't guarantee it will work [B]but [/B]I think it is worth a positive shot. I wish I had followed this course a few years ago when the family was in mega crisis. I didn't. I am unhappy with the lack of chores division but it is not my husband who dropped the ball...it was me. Good luck. DDD [/QUOTE]
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