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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 46283" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>To mediate or not to medicate - that should be a parental decision, not the school's. However, there are a lot of parents whose decision to not medicate is due to their denial of the extent of the problem, rather than concerns for "drugging their child". This is where you need to thoroughly research both alternatives, make a list of the good points and bad points of both options and discuss it with all concerned, before making your decision and sticking to it. </p><p>If you choose to medicate, you do it properly. Not like difficult child 3's friend, whose mother medicates him if he's a bit grumpy in the morning but if he's having a happy morning at home she doesn't give him his medications. She has NO idea what he's like at school on these days - I sure do. And it's even harder for him than not medicating at all.</p><p></p><p>If you choose to NOT medicate, you need to have more support in place to help him learn to adapt. Your reasons for not medicating are your own, but you WILL be challenged so you may as well be prepared. Various experts, especially those you're related to, will tell you what they think in no uncertain terms. Be prepared to handle this. It's not fair, but it's life. It happens. If you're comfortable with your decision, it shouldn't be a problem. But if it bothers you, and makes you feel confused and unsettled, then you really haven't made a decision to not medicate him, you just haven't got around to ANY decision yet.</p><p></p><p>Only you really know the situation. </p><p></p><p>When it comes to the rights and wrongs of medicating, I like Temple Grandin's rule of thumb - the "WOW" factor. If you medicate your child and see an absolutely brilliant improvement, like "WOW! This child is doing brilliantly as a result of medicating him," then you keep going. You know it's worth the effort.</p><p>But if you try the medication and don't really see much difference (after you've waited the expected time, of course) then what's the point? May as well not bother. Of course, when I mention "not much difference" you have to include the measureable but less obvious changes, such as required blood levels of anticonvulsant in a child who has epilepsy, for example. You may not notice any improvement, because the medications are not supposed to bring about change, they're a preventive against seizures.</p><p></p><p>Basically, if you're sure about your decision (which ever it is) then have faith in yourself. If you're not sure, then inform yourself and make up your own mind. Don't let other people (including us) make your mind up for you. This has to be YOUR decision, ultimately. Own it proudly.</p><p></p><p>marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 46283, member: 1991"] To mediate or not to medicate - that should be a parental decision, not the school's. However, there are a lot of parents whose decision to not medicate is due to their denial of the extent of the problem, rather than concerns for "drugging their child". This is where you need to thoroughly research both alternatives, make a list of the good points and bad points of both options and discuss it with all concerned, before making your decision and sticking to it. If you choose to medicate, you do it properly. Not like difficult child 3's friend, whose mother medicates him if he's a bit grumpy in the morning but if he's having a happy morning at home she doesn't give him his medications. She has NO idea what he's like at school on these days - I sure do. And it's even harder for him than not medicating at all. If you choose to NOT medicate, you need to have more support in place to help him learn to adapt. Your reasons for not medicating are your own, but you WILL be challenged so you may as well be prepared. Various experts, especially those you're related to, will tell you what they think in no uncertain terms. Be prepared to handle this. It's not fair, but it's life. It happens. If you're comfortable with your decision, it shouldn't be a problem. But if it bothers you, and makes you feel confused and unsettled, then you really haven't made a decision to not medicate him, you just haven't got around to ANY decision yet. Only you really know the situation. When it comes to the rights and wrongs of medicating, I like Temple Grandin's rule of thumb - the "WOW" factor. If you medicate your child and see an absolutely brilliant improvement, like "WOW! This child is doing brilliantly as a result of medicating him," then you keep going. You know it's worth the effort. But if you try the medication and don't really see much difference (after you've waited the expected time, of course) then what's the point? May as well not bother. Of course, when I mention "not much difference" you have to include the measureable but less obvious changes, such as required blood levels of anticonvulsant in a child who has epilepsy, for example. You may not notice any improvement, because the medications are not supposed to bring about change, they're a preventive against seizures. Basically, if you're sure about your decision (which ever it is) then have faith in yourself. If you're not sure, then inform yourself and make up your own mind. Don't let other people (including us) make your mind up for you. This has to be YOUR decision, ultimately. Own it proudly. marg [/QUOTE]
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