I don't think they have a clue. They can talk all they want, they can say critisize difficult child right and left. But..they don't live with it every day. Even my sister who is a teacher for 30 years and my sister in law teacher for 37 years...When I try to discuss difficult child with them, they insist that medication is the answer. They insist they cannot teach unless children are medicated. That is NOT always the answer and for many wouldn't help anyway. Finally after years and years of trying to find answers from teachers, school staff, therapist's counselors...I decided to go directly to someone that is very successful, but had these same challenges as a child and teen. She was not explosive, complete opposite. Held everything in. But had school phobia, would actually be sick every day before school, all the aches and pains difficult child's seem to have, all the anxiety, depression. Many of the same struggles. When I explained to her about difficult child and all the things going on..she said it sounds familiar, and can offer some insite and maybe some solutions or atleast help as to what she would of liked for interventions. She has not gotten back to me, but she said "it will get better". Even though she still admits at age 27 she still deals with some of the same issues and struggles through them. Hopefully from someone that has been there..Maybe she can help me understand.