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<blockquote data-quote="TheyAreLegallyAdultsNow" data-source="post: 342915" data-attributes="member: 8405"><p>Thanks everyone!!! I appreciate the love and encouragement.</p><p></p><p>Star, you ARE adorable and cute!!!! <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/laugh.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":laugh:" title="laugh :laugh:" data-shortname=":laugh:" /> funny to boot!!!!</p><p></p><p>In spite of the nightmare we are currently living courtesy of our adoptees I remain a huge fan of adoption! </p><p></p><p>It is the kid's mental illness, the underlying Reactive Attachment Disorder in our adopted difficult child, that makes me currently flinch at the concept of adoption. I expect to get over that "fight or flight" reaction... eventually.</p><p></p><p>For now it appears our wounds are all too fresh. </p><p></p><p>I imagine husband and I are experiencing a bit of PTSD after our difficult child-daughter and difficult child-DS have been behaving as if they are working their way through a Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) Symptom checklist.</p><p><span style="font-size: 15px"></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 15px"><u>Adoption absolutely did not cause our children's mental illnesses, or their evil behavior towards us</u>!</span> </p><p></p><p><span style="font-size: 15px">Poor prenatal care, drug/alcohol exposure in-utero, bouncing around in foster care in numerous placements BEFORE ADOPTION during the time where their brain was most actively developing is the pin-point-able organic source of our personal heartache.</span></p><p></p><p>Certainly not every adoptee has Reactive Attachment Disorder! That is why as I mentioned at the end of my first post that I hate to make the bio-adopted comparison. </p><p></p><p>Regardless of what caused our difficult children' mental illness... they are still cute and loved... just for our own safety, husband and I must keep distance from them until they are willing to get the help they so desperately need!!!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TheyAreLegallyAdultsNow, post: 342915, member: 8405"] Thanks everyone!!! I appreciate the love and encouragement. Star, you ARE adorable and cute!!!! :funny: funny to boot!!!! In spite of the nightmare we are currently living courtesy of our adoptees I remain a huge fan of adoption! It is the kid's mental illness, the underlying Reactive Attachment Disorder in our adopted difficult child, that makes me currently flinch at the concept of adoption. I expect to get over that "fight or flight" reaction... eventually. For now it appears our wounds are all too fresh. I imagine husband and I are experiencing a bit of PTSD after our difficult child-daughter and difficult child-DS have been behaving as if they are working their way through a Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) Symptom checklist. [SIZE=4] [U]Adoption absolutely did not cause our children's mental illnesses, or their evil behavior towards us[/U]![/SIZE] [SIZE=4]Poor prenatal care, drug/alcohol exposure in-utero, bouncing around in foster care in numerous placements BEFORE ADOPTION during the time where their brain was most actively developing is the pin-point-able organic source of our personal heartache.[/SIZE] Certainly not every adoptee has Reactive Attachment Disorder! That is why as I mentioned at the end of my first post that I hate to make the bio-adopted comparison. Regardless of what caused our difficult children' mental illness... they are still cute and loved... just for our own safety, husband and I must keep distance from them until they are willing to get the help they so desperately need!!!! [/QUOTE]
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