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<blockquote data-quote="AllStressedOut" data-source="post: 73512" data-attributes="member: 3837"><p>I got pregnant with my oldest son when I was 17. I had just graduated high school when I found out. I was terrified, but I knew I wanted to keep my baby. I was so scared of how my parents would react and I was ashamed. My parents made the decision to fly me to Mexico. I don't know if this is true and they swear it wasn't, but back then, I thought they were flying me to Mexico to get an abortion. I refused to go. I told my mother that I needed to be with my boyfriend (my ex husband) at the time. She signed off on me getting married because she knew I was only months away from 18 and could make the decision myself. When I told my parents (my mom and step dad), my dad asked if anyone was hungry and he left to pick up some chicken and didn't come back for about 4-5 hours. I was devistated.</p><p></p><p>As bad as it seems that your daughter is so young, do your best to give her information without letting her know how upset you are. This is hard on her too. Give her information about adoption, abortion and keeping the baby. Be as up front and honest as you can be with her. Let her know what keeping the baby means, late nights, no sleep, missing going out with her friends, no money and so on. Just be sure you give her lots of hugs and let her know that you will support her decision, that this is her decision. She may only be 14, but this is her baby. If you allow her to make the decision with all the information you can provide, things will work out better for her as time passes. Do your best to not lead her in a direction. I can't stress this part enough. If my parents had convinced me to have an abortion way back when, I would have never forgiven myself or them. My son is a beautiful 12 year old boy, who is now taller than me, deep voice, smart aleck attitude and all. I love him and I can't imagine what life would be like if I had made a different decision. I'm thankful I stood my ground and didn't allow my parents to make any decisions, but it still hurts me to think about how they reacted and what they suggested when they first heard about it. </p><p></p><p>Many (((hugs))). I was not the mom in my situation, so I can only imagine how heartbreaking this is for you. You had different hopes and dreams for your daughter. Everything will work out the way it supposed to. Give your daughter a big hug and let her know how much you love her and that you will support her decision. This doesn't mean you are raising the baby, just that you'll help guide her along the way. Give her (((hugs))) from me too. Let her know she is not alone and I remember how difficult the situation was. My heart goes out to you both.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="AllStressedOut, post: 73512, member: 3837"] I got pregnant with my oldest son when I was 17. I had just graduated high school when I found out. I was terrified, but I knew I wanted to keep my baby. I was so scared of how my parents would react and I was ashamed. My parents made the decision to fly me to Mexico. I don't know if this is true and they swear it wasn't, but back then, I thought they were flying me to Mexico to get an abortion. I refused to go. I told my mother that I needed to be with my boyfriend (my ex husband) at the time. She signed off on me getting married because she knew I was only months away from 18 and could make the decision myself. When I told my parents (my mom and step dad), my dad asked if anyone was hungry and he left to pick up some chicken and didn't come back for about 4-5 hours. I was devistated. As bad as it seems that your daughter is so young, do your best to give her information without letting her know how upset you are. This is hard on her too. Give her information about adoption, abortion and keeping the baby. Be as up front and honest as you can be with her. Let her know what keeping the baby means, late nights, no sleep, missing going out with her friends, no money and so on. Just be sure you give her lots of hugs and let her know that you will support her decision, that this is her decision. She may only be 14, but this is her baby. If you allow her to make the decision with all the information you can provide, things will work out better for her as time passes. Do your best to not lead her in a direction. I can't stress this part enough. If my parents had convinced me to have an abortion way back when, I would have never forgiven myself or them. My son is a beautiful 12 year old boy, who is now taller than me, deep voice, smart aleck attitude and all. I love him and I can't imagine what life would be like if I had made a different decision. I'm thankful I stood my ground and didn't allow my parents to make any decisions, but it still hurts me to think about how they reacted and what they suggested when they first heard about it. Many (((hugs))). I was not the mom in my situation, so I can only imagine how heartbreaking this is for you. You had different hopes and dreams for your daughter. Everything will work out the way it supposed to. Give your daughter a big hug and let her know how much you love her and that you will support her decision. This doesn't mean you are raising the baby, just that you'll help guide her along the way. Give her (((hugs))) from me too. Let her know she is not alone and I remember how difficult the situation was. My heart goes out to you both. [/QUOTE]
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