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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 719489" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>(((((hugs)))))</p><p></p><p>I think you are going to have to get tough on them. They sure are not going to go easy on you. There are a LOT of things you can do. I might start with taking video of any attempts to discipline them as they have started calling child abuse and you don't want them calling CPS with false threats. That can be an ugly thing to go through. </p><p></p><p>If they hit you or your husband again, call the cops. Let them know that you are not playing and will not tolerate this. Take all the fun stuff out of their bedroom. Strip it when they are at school. Down to just 7 outfits, the shoes they are wearing, the bed, a light, bedding. They don't need anything but school books in there. If they are bored they can study. I would leave one comfort item each if they have one from when they are little (my kids still do and they are adults - no matter how bad the trouble was, we NEVER took it away.)</p><p></p><p>This is a suggestion. You may not be ready to go that far. I do strongly suggest you read some books. I would start with Parenting Your Child With Love and Logic by Fay and Cline. You can explore other books in the Love & Logic series on their website <a href="http://www.loveandlogic.com" target="_blank">www.loveandlogic.com</a> . I highly recommend L&L esp for teens. I found it was incredibly helpful and know a lot of parents and teachers who also found it useful. Our school district goes back to it time and again. Other programs come in for a short time but they fail and the teachers go back to what worked. The teachers don't understand why the administrators keep bringing in other programs, because they say L&L works just fine as long as you are consistent. I think the administrators fall prey to the new and shiny. </p><p></p><p>The Explosive Child by Ross Greene and What Your Explosive Child is Trying to Tell You by Ross are also books you should read. They can help you figure out what is going on and how to stop it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 719489, member: 1233"] (((((hugs))))) I think you are going to have to get tough on them. They sure are not going to go easy on you. There are a LOT of things you can do. I might start with taking video of any attempts to discipline them as they have started calling child abuse and you don't want them calling CPS with false threats. That can be an ugly thing to go through. If they hit you or your husband again, call the cops. Let them know that you are not playing and will not tolerate this. Take all the fun stuff out of their bedroom. Strip it when they are at school. Down to just 7 outfits, the shoes they are wearing, the bed, a light, bedding. They don't need anything but school books in there. If they are bored they can study. I would leave one comfort item each if they have one from when they are little (my kids still do and they are adults - no matter how bad the trouble was, we NEVER took it away.) This is a suggestion. You may not be ready to go that far. I do strongly suggest you read some books. I would start with Parenting Your Child With Love and Logic by Fay and Cline. You can explore other books in the Love & Logic series on their website [URL="http://www.loveandlogic.com"]www.loveandlogic.com[/URL] . I highly recommend L&L esp for teens. I found it was incredibly helpful and know a lot of parents and teachers who also found it useful. Our school district goes back to it time and again. Other programs come in for a short time but they fail and the teachers go back to what worked. The teachers don't understand why the administrators keep bringing in other programs, because they say L&L works just fine as long as you are consistent. I think the administrators fall prey to the new and shiny. The Explosive Child by Ross Greene and What Your Explosive Child is Trying to Tell You by Ross are also books you should read. They can help you figure out what is going on and how to stop it. [/QUOTE]
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